To start, I am 20 years old. This is quite embarrassing to post about publicly but I would really like an answer for once and see if there is at least one person who might be able to give me advice or who might even relate. I’m just gonna get right into it and say that my vagina feels faulty. I have tried mas******ing (censoring because I still don’t really know how reddit works) before but it felt kind of medical. And it hurt when I tried to use two fingers. It honestly just felt like friction and I felt no pleasure at all. Yet I watch adult content and “get off” to that in my own way. It’s just a lot of dry humping, honestly. I’m sure if someone walked in one me it would look like a flailing worm. Anyway, that’s the only thing that works. Clitoral stimulation is fine but it begins to feel like too much and there’s this *almost* burning sensation. That might be a whole other problem but I’m not sure. I’ve also been using the label asexual for a long time now, but in the past year or two I’ve begun to feel like a fraud because of my flailing activities. How come I don’t have a problem with that yet the idea of being intimate with someone does not appeal to me? I apologize if that was a lot but, it’s time for an answer. Or at least a word of encouragement or some shit.
Edit: Didn’t think I’d have to say this but, do not be weird in the comments or in private chatting. That is not why I posted this.
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It’s completely normal for sexual pleasure to vary greatly from person to person. If masturbation feels uncomfortable, it could be a matter of arousal levels, lubrication, or finding what feels right for you. The burning sensation during clitoral stimulation might indicate overstimulation, which is common and can often be mitigated by adjusting the technique or pressure. As for your sexuality, it’s a personal and often fluid experience; feeling pleasure on your own doesn’t invalidate your identification as asexual, which is more about sexual attraction to others than about the physical aspects of pleasure.
Well, at least for me, I’d definitely would still try eating your pussy to see if it that would work, as though I’m a guy. So I really have a lot less say than a woman, but i would suggest, may want to use lube or make sure you get yourself wet somehow, wetter the better.
Also there nothing at all wrong with talking to a doctor about it, if you can.
Keep experimenting. 🙂
Anyone agree or disagree?
In terms of being asexual or not I think you don’t necessarily have to put a label on everything. Some see a need for an wish a sexual partner , some don’t. Im guessing it will vary over time but you do you and don’t worry about whatever might be normal. It’s all personal preference at the end of the day.
In terms of masturbation the most important thing is that you’re able to actually get off so now you can start fine tuning your technique. Using fingers inside requires wetness either your own or lube so perhaps look for some lube? Direct clitoral stimulation might also be a bit to much sometimes, so see if you can find other spots, like on the side of it where you don’t hit it directly
i was in a similar situation a bit ago, the only way i could get off was i guess “humping”, the pressure felt good but not enough where i felt overwhelmed. anything but that was too much and not enjoyable, and even now that i love the pleasure, i find if i’m not concentrated on feeling good then i’ll never cum.
based on what has helped me- try to experiment with your own comfort in mind! trying listening to music or moans (whatever floats ur boat?) and focus on the pressure, it’s okay to stop and try again later if it’s too much handle :]
everything takes time to figure out and that’s more than okay! (even if just doesn’t work out!)