I’m (F20) had a relationship with (F22) for about 2 years. We were happy and in love. She was my only person and friend. She has lots of friends and I have none. I also suffer from mental health problems, but she already knew that from the start, I have explained all those things and she was fine with it. Fast forward, she got tired of me, I get it, no one’s fault— she broke up with me. I can’t lose her since she is my only friend and I love her. For a few months now, I have been talking to her, and she said that I still have a chance as long as I fix myself, she already met a few people though. I already told her that I would distance myself, and stop talking to her for good but she told me that she doesn’t want me to stop being friends with her, but I feel like I am not wanted. Should I distance myself already even though I need her or should I just keep on pursuing her?
TL;DR: I still love my ex, but the feeling is not mutual.
and she is the only friend I got in my life.
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In all honesty, she may be keeping you around as a back up option. If other people fall threw, she knows you’ll be there for her at the drop of a hat. Also, her words don’t seem to match her actions if she’s making you feel unwanted despite her wanting to remain friends.
Have you expressed these thoughts to your ex? I understand it’s hard when she’s your main friend but can you really sacrifice your own happiness just to keep her around? That’s not fair to yourself.
It is unhealthy for you to stay friends with her. Move on from the relationship.