disclaimer: yes I have googled it, the results were less insightful & more “embrace it” which is fair I guess but I’ll explain below. yes, I am using a throwaway.

I (29F) am married and have been with my man for 8 years. We have a great sex life and have sex maybe 5 times a week, mostly vanilla but this works for us atm as we have 2 children.

As I have gotten older and learnt more about myself and what I like, orgasms have become more frequent, which is great! I also learnt that I am a squirter, which delights my partner, but I fucking hate it. I have been told in many many ways how enjoyable this is for him and how he loves it, blah blah, and I am so happy that he is cool with it, but I don’t. It makes a mess and lessens the opportunity for enjoyable, spontaneous sex that ends in my orgasm as well as his, because I will deliberately “hold it in” (my orgasm that is) so I don’t squirt.

The longer this has gone on, the more I have decided I hate it. And no, emptying my bladder prior to sex does NOT help. I will not resign myself to an orgasmless existence, but any women who feels the same is welcome to chime in or anyone else with any insight.

Is there are way to stop it? I don’t remember squirting when I was younger and beginning to explore sex/masturbation, but I also wasn’t having powerful orgasms, only mini ones, lol.

A few notes: I can orgasm through penetrative sex alone, so I have *researched* squirting variations between the type of orgasm (clitoral/penetrative/combo) and they all end in squirting!

Plz help. lol.

2 comments

  1. There’s not much to go off of. Until someone decides to see what goes on with the body to cause squirting, there’s really not much you can do about it. Are you aware of what’s going on with your body when you squirt? You could try to condition yourself to not squirt when climaxing, but idk how plausible that would be. This question has been asked many times, so you could probably search reddit to see other people’s responses.

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