I am in my first ever relationship with a guy, and once he finishes then sex is over as he is exhausted. I take a lot longer to warm up sexually than he does so I never get the chance to finish during sex, I often either finish myself while he naps or don’t finish at all. Id like to know what it’s like for other women, do you find that foreplay helps and do you finish during sex?
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Invest in a good sex toy so you can both make you cum before he does.
Foreplay helps me alot. My ex had a real talent for making me cum from piv, so I was lucky that way. Before him I didn’t think I could cum solely from piv.
I orgasm from oral sex first, and then from fingering. If I’m still in the mood for.more, I have a little vibrator that fits in between our bodies to use during intercourse. But generally intercourse does not get me off and that’s normal for most women. I always get off first, during other activities.
Typically most men are out of commission after they orgasm so the polite order of things is ladies first. Communicate your needs. If he’s moving too fast, trying to speedrun his way to penetration, say “I’m not ready yet” as a cue for him to get to work.
He has a dense refractory period, which means he is honor bound to satisfy his partner before he orgasms.
My husband always makes sure I’m warmed up and that I finish. My go-to is using a vibrator during sex, and I always finish first. You need to have a serious conversation about your pleasure being important. I wouldn’t want to have sex with someone who doesn’t care if I enjoy it.
Guy here , if he’s young then he will cum soon, try riding him to get yourself off, teach him to do the CAT position for you. If you want oral tell him what feels good. Often women expect the guy to know but if your young the only way to become experienced in getting your other half off is communication.
My partner finishes me before we even get to penetrative sex. Usually from oral and clitoral stimulation. I can orgasm from PIV as well but not as reliably.
Foreplay definitely helps. I don’t finish everytime, but most of the time, I finish multiple times (my bf lasts pretty long, so we usually have sex for an hour or more at a time and our quicky is 30mins). Sometimes I would hold it in and my bf ends up finishing before I do, I just tell him to stay in there while I touch myself or ask him to eat me out/play with me a bit more so I can finish. My bf told me it brings him joy to make me finish and even if he already finished, it still makes him feel good when he touches me and help me finish.
I don’t because nothing works🤷🏻♀️
Some of us get off to vaginal penetration alone pretty easily. Doesnt sound like you and thats okay, most women get off to clitoral stimulation. But uh I’d also recommend leaving him and or finding a guy that can get you off and wants too (I’m assuming you told him about your issues).