The older I get the more I’m disliking other people. It is starting to get harder and harder to relate to others and make friends. I just genuinely either feel like they do not like me and that they judge me or that I just don’t relate to others and want to keep them at a social distance because their conversations just don’t have my interests. It feels like I am always in between a gaps between people. How do I deal with this?
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It’s not uncommon for people to feel this way as they age and their preferences and interests evolve.
Finding like-minded individuals or engaging in activities aligned with your interests can help you connect with people who share similar values. Embrace quality over quantity in friendships, focusing on those who appreciate and understand you.
It’s okay to have a smaller circle of friends if they bring genuine connection and understanding.
Oh no people are the absolute godamn worst. Don’t worry. You’ll find your people scattered among the hoi polloi. They’re out there!
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Polloi ( yeah sure) nice try but people are not worse their brains and screwed up , stuck in a telephone all day and sucked into the media and their neverending red/blue, divide and conquer quest and if we actually came together we wood take a chunk outta their pockets and stick it into Ours
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with knowing that most people aren’t for you and keeping a small circle. It’s only problematic if you’re unable to be polite even to people you’d rather than socialize with, or if you’re so antisocial that it hinders your ability to hold down a job.
I do have a hard time genuinely liking someone to the point where I get surprised when I do. I don’t think I have had a guy friend who I can just totally vibe with in years.
I think the more we interact with people, the more patterns we pick up on. We continue to solidify our ideas of what makes a person good friendship material or even a decent human being.
On the flip side, we also pick up on signs we’ve repeatedly seen that indicate we probably want to avoid hanging out with someone much.
As an example, I used to be desperate for friends and would hang out with anyone as long as we could keep a conversation going for a long time. But that sometimes included people who talk at you rather than with you. I would walk away from those interactions feeling exhausted but deluding myself into thinking things went well. Nowadays I avoid self-centered people like that and direct my energy towards more balanced interactions.
I disagree with most here. I am similar. Being misanthropic isn’t the best way to live. We should look for positives of others and work on being patient and not being frustrated by their foibles. It’s hard though.
Same.
Ya same. it’s a drag & I am 2 lazy 😴
Nope. I pretty much hate every one.
Yeah the older I get, I can’t deal with as many people, especially in big groups. A lot of people are kind of mean too. I’m a lot pickier now about who I keep in my life and who I decide to welcome into my life. I use to not be able to find out someone sucked before it was too late, now I can’t miss that someone sucks within the first half hour of meeting.
They’re doing their best
nah i pretty much dont like anybody