How did you accept being unattractive/ugly? (in societies definition)

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1. It’s not easy to direct your self worth from your looks to something else as society doesn’t really accept placing a woman’s worth on anything else than beauty, but that’s exactly what you have to do. I’m sure there are things you’re able to do/have done that you can be proud of, and if that’s not the case maybe consider learning new skills or getting a degree in something. Look at the goals you have achieved and plan how you achieve future goals. I recently started weight lifting and it makes me feel a lot better in my body just seeing the progress and the numbers go up hah.

   Another thing I gotta say is that looks don’t have all to do with your body. I’m not saying throw away your money for clothes and hairdressers, but updating your wardrobe, finding a new style that’s cool, might help with self esteem. I gotta say it feels better to hear compliments on my style than my body anyway.

2. I have not accepted that I am ugly or unattractive just because the society told me. I have accepted that I am not the prettiest or the most beautiful person who can capture everyone’s attention. I used to feel sad since I didn’t get much attention from people I like. Hence, I am single to this day. I do feel lonely because of that, especially when I see my friends getting engaged/married. But, I also do feel okay because I have the opportunity to follow my dreams without the marital pressure.

   What I have also learned to accept from this that I am okay with what I am given for this life. I do have big dreams, but with the things I learned in my life, I have practiced to keep low expectations. With that, my life has been stress free (a little).