I connected with a girl (23F) at a conference right after my breakup, sensing an immediate connection especially in our love interests. During a truth and dare game and later in conversation, she made clear advances, even going so far as to lock the door and sit very close asking me to give her a dare. Despite her signals, I was still emotionally tied to my ex and further received a call from her which made me shoo off the moment. 3 months later, I sent her a video of me watching a movie she said she’d want a love story like. The next day, she shared a WhatsApp screenshot on Instagram expressing her strong interest in the person who watched the same movie and how thrilled she is about it (ps: she’d texted how she’s madly in love with who watched the movie)
However, our recent interactions have decreased, and she mentioned going on a potential date. She had once created a playlist with a note after the conference, signifying her feelings. Now, I find myself unsure about making a move, particularly given that we are now colleagues. Also, I don’t feel very confident that I am the guy she was talking about while referring to the movie. What is the coincidence of another guy watching the same movie and her uploading the story a day later?
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Coincidences like that I feel like are unlikely. You said you’re colleagues, but do actually work together or just met at this conference? It just sounds like you’re worried about rejection and I think that fear is the only stopping you (and maybe your lingering feelings about your ex). I say just make a move and ask her to some plans (dinner, an activity, a walk, coffee, etc.) and see where that goes. She says no, then you move on. Don’t get hung up on the little connections so much and the what ifs. Just go for it and the more you do it the easier rejection will feel (ideally!), but I know it’s different for everybody. Good luck!
I think she was hinting but you left it a bit late. It’s been at least 3 months – she’s moved on. That’s not your fault – you were doing the healthy thing by giving yourself time after your break up – but people don’t always wait if they don’t think it’s gonna happen.
If you want to act on it now, she’s not in a serious relationship so she’d probably accept an invitation.
But the working together thing would worry me. It’s never a good idea to date colleagues. It’s messy, complicated and stressful. I’d probably say you should move on from this one, honestly…