please don’t judge me. I’ve never really had a lot of sexual partner’s in my life, so I don’t know if that’s a normal thing or is it my fault bc I’m bad at sex. I’m a 19 F, and I realized that most of the guys I slept with only came one time with me, and the next times we’d have sex they would just not finish. I think part of the reason is bc I hate dirty talk, so maybe they don’t feel stimulated? I really dk. is it normal?
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some partners may be on medications that make it hard to cum. performance anxiety can also lead to this. have you talked to your partner? maybe they have an idea why they’re having a hard time orgasming.
There are many reasons why someone can’t finish. But I don’t think they would have anything to do with you. You can talk to your partner, without judgement and ask him if he wants you to do anything in particular.
As for the dirty talk, personally it’s a huge turn on for me. I had a partner that would blindfold me, whisper things in my ear while she strokes me or rides me and stuff. Having said that, if I know my partner isn’t into dirty talk, I wouldn’t force them to do it.
Most of the answers you get here are logically deducted from what you say (a very scientific way of thinking). However for that to happen you need to give the necessary variables.
Here is an example, I couldn’t fly to the moon, is it because I had no fuel?
You can see why that would be difficult for anyone to tell for sure.
Your question is the same,
*Your partners usually don’t cum – how many? How often has this happened? Are they hookups? Was alcohol or drugs involved? How old are they?*
You can see that we don’t have enough Info (or variables) to say anything, but certainly dirty talk is irrelevant. It could be anything, do you feel pain etc. It can be hard for anyone to cum when having sex with someone who flinches with each thrust, for example.