Hi,
I am well aware that my talkativeness comes from a place of insecurity. As soon as there is silence, it’s awkward for me, so I try to fill it.
I used to be very silent as a teenager, but some time around 16 someone told me that it’s creepy and weird that I don’t talk so much, and don’t share anything personal with my friend group. That triggered something in me, and for a while it made people like me, but now, years later it’s a burden for me and I can’t seem to figure out how to stop it. I just keep on talking and talking.
I’m really good at small talk, but it just happens to often that I don’t know when to stop.
Same is with serious topics and sometimes even with normal topics, where I’ll say more than I should.
Don’t even get me started on oversharing.
I’ve tried so many things, but I just can’t keep to shut up sometimes.
Any exercises I can do for this?
3 comments
Mindfulness
Understand that talking too much is often more of an insecurity than a strength. Get better at sitting in silence. Understand why you feel the need to talk so much. Being able to approach a conversation with confidence will allow you to listen to them more and speak based on how you feel now rather than how you maybe felt in the past. You can also just stop talking lol
Just my 2 cents on the matter, but I personally quite like talkative people. Would rather be around someone that talks a lot than a dry, one word responder. Though if you feel you’re only talking because of some insecurity, then I would probably try to work on whatever is making you insecure and seeing if that affects how talkative you are. Ultimately though being a talkative person is not necessarily a bad thing, just gotta find people that like that about you 🙂.