I had 1 previous relationship, and I loved the person I dated. Being loved by the person I love was a valuable experience. I would like to experience it once again sometime in the future as a young adult. Now I’am wiser in how I approach relationships and my connections with other people, have optimum level of self-esteem.
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Wonderful. I went into a dozen relationships with my feet on the ground after me and my first broke up. I had a great time. I learned what I wanted in a partner which was having a lot in common, someone I could respect without ever trying to control or change, and someone who was not interested in controlling or changing me. About 4 persons I dated hit all bullet points, the others I broke up with or they broke up with me. Then I fell hard for one of them. We have been together for almost 37 years and married 31 later this month. I still love her madly. I no longer think of my first girlfriend as someone I was in love with, but it was what I thought was love back then. We remain friends. She is equally happy and in love with her really terrific husband.
I personally think real love comes the second time around – at least it did for me.
Honestly it’s great. The previous partners I’ve had were not really what I wanted so I tried to change myself to fit the relationships and wound up being lost as a result.
When you are younger it’s easy to fall in love with the person someone could be rather than who they actually are and it winds up being a disappointment when they never become that person. You change yourself to fit the situation rather than finding someone you can be your authentic self with and it’s a disaster when the end comes because you feel stupid for the amount of yourself you gave up and let slide waiting for that person to change.
Now I’m with someone who not only knows me but himself as well. We know we are both here as a choice and are both adults and whole people who can exist without the other and choose to share our lives and who we are with each other.