My (25) gf (23) wants me to man handle her and be more rough towards her. I have been doing so recently after her showing she wanted it, (I was previously cautious she wouldn’t be into that so never did it). But I want to continue spicing things up and bringing a sense of surprise to her when it comes to things like that.
I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how I can be more dominant and “man handle” her in the bedroom, along with dirty talk.
She is my first and only sexual partner so I don’t have experience outside of it and although she is extremely into what I am doing at the moment, I don’t want to just restively do the same things again and again if that makes sense.
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Your best bet is to have this conversation with her about her wants, needs and expectations. We can only give you suggestions, she should be able to tell you EXACTLY what she’s looking for.
To ME, being man handled means literally being slapped around, choked, used like a fuckdoll with no regard for my safety or pleasure – but to her that could way too much… or not enough.
You don’t want to to guess and fuck it up if you do something which makes her feel unsafe. You don’t want misunderstanding or miscommunication.
looking into some bdsm attributes can go a long way. some retraints or rope, ballgag/blindfold or a paddle/flogger.
(read up on proper technique if you use ropes. restraints are generally easier to work with.)
Fuckerface
Start slow and lead her to the bedroom by her hand. Turn her around and up against the wall. Take her hand and put it over her head then bring her other hand over her head and pin both her wrists against the wall with one of your hands while you slowly and passionately kiss her lips and neck while undress and strip her completely (pants, panties, bra) with your free hand. Lead her to the bed and push her onto her back still holding both hands over her head on the bed while gently fingering her. Ask her what she wants you to do to her. She’ll say something like she wants you to make love or have sex. Or perhaps she say I want you to go down on me. Then look directly into her eyes and firmly command her to tell you that she wants: either for you to fuck her or eat her pussy. Make her talk dirty and explicitly tell you what she wants you to do. If she says it, firmly order her to say it again. Play with her head, mentally. Command her to say it. If she doesn’t say fuck or pussy, then don’t give in. Keep fingering her and rubbing her clit all the while. She’ll mentally let go, get over any embarrassment, get out of her head, be at your command and probably fuck the daylights out of you. You can thank me later.
Just google and try things. See how she likes it
This kind of play needs thorough conversation about what she wants, where are her boundaries and what is the safe word or gesture that will stop everything immediately. Basically manhandling means that she wants you to use her just as you like. You may slap/hit, restrain, spit on, degrade her verbally, make a mess on her makeup, write insults on her, make her deepthroat, fuck her holes roughly, spank, fist, use toys or other objects, control her breathing, hearing, eyesight and other senses, cum on/in her, even pee on/in her depending what is agreed.