Just realized tonight that it’s been almost 2 years since I had a falling out with my best friend. Haven’t spoken since. Also realized, he was the last “real” friend I ever made. About 14 years ago. We were in college and met at a Jason Boland concert after too many drinks. Ended up following through on our drunken conversation and rode bulls together for a couple years. He met a toxic girl from Oklahoma, and she destroyed the friendship. She didn’t last, but the damage did.

Marriage/family responsibilities and increased workload have generally filled the void, but every few months there’s a time when I wish I had a good buddy to hang out or discuss something with.

I’ve made lots of acquaintances, but it seems like nobody has the time (myself included) to form a real bond at this stage of life. When was the last time you made a “real” friend?

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  1. One of the better friends I made was all the way in 6th grade middle school.

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    I don’t think I’ve ever had real friends, I never shared enough of myself for them to like me all that much. I never even told any of them my last name LMAO

  2. I’ve got 2 best friends for life still together to this day, have had 100s of friends and stuff but those 2 are a different level

  4. 13 years more or less. Recently divorced which has made hanging out with couple friends hard/weird. Need to prioritize making some new friends in the next year or so.

  6. In the lab last week; but Igor brought me an abnormal brain, so I had to put the body in cold storage until we can find another one.

  10. Last summer.

    My friend’s husband invited one of his coworkers to a backyard bbq at their house and we all really hit it off with him.

  11. 2017 I moved to the city and met a girl at my serving job. One of the most refreshing people I’ve ever met. Makes me sad that we don’t live in the same city anymore. We had the best conversations and she knew how to drink! We told eachother our darkest stories and we really got eachother. We are still in contact regularly but it’s not the same when you don’t live close. I’m very selective with making friends, and most people I encounter are just not my vibe.

  13. So, are we talking hours? Days?
    Months?
    Years?
    Decade?

    You know, just as a frame of reference…

  14. I made a friend when I was 10 and lost track of him for 10 years. Then we got together and it was like we had never been apart. We go 2 or 3 years without seeing each other and barely talking, then we get together for a few weeks or a few months and enjoy each other’s stories. He was here this past weekend.

    I make good friends several times a year. Not since covid. I can think of 4 good friends I have made in the past 3 years. We talk almost weekly and see each other in person occasionally. One of them spent a week with me last July.

  15. Im lucky to say i have two friends i would consider real friends. We play on the same soccer team in our local amateur league. We would still be friends if we stoped playing soccer.

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