So me an this girl are coworkers, we’ve met up twice and were out for 6 hours each time, lots of physical contact( holding hands, locking arms, hugs,) which she intiated some of. She let me kiss her on the cheek and said I could kiss her next time.
When we text she will keep the convo going(emojis, questions etc.), enthusiastic replies and she seems keen to meet up which we’ve already got our next date planned. But she has really slow replies, the longest so far is 5 hours, and usually replies to me within two hours but most of time In half an hour and it’s making communicating with her outside of work and dates really difficult and makes me seem like she’s losing interest.
Is this ok, or am I just being anxious and needy.
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5 whole hours!?!?!? Oh my. She might have a life or something.
Anyway, if you wanna kill this then keep the anxious train rolling. Best to just not GAF about texting and let her actions speak…and see what they say after a few dates.
That’s not a long time. Some people aren’t glued to their phones and that is a good thing.
Of you arent long distance
Talking on phone isnt really doing you much benefit, its a easy cheap attempt of building the relationship
Compared to exploring all bout each other when together
Nowadays lots of people love to hide and think about the best response but that takes shi away for me
Maybe she doesnt know waht to respond
Maybe she wants to get to know you irl
Maybe she saying hard to get (games)
Maybe you are one of many
Maybe she is busy with other things
(this doesnt have to be a major red flag like most people say “Oh they dont even want to spend 2 minutes to send reply”)
Maybe you are realllly boring to text with
Maybe.. she is
How old are you
Is she maybe not allowed on her phone that much
Maybe she needs to help out with housework
Maybe she has tiktok brain and is constantly consuming content between texting
Have you tried calling lol
Sure it mgiht be scary but if you call each night instead of trying to text each day
You build more
You get actual emotion response
You might save time by doing that, more talk less time, qucker answers
Seem more confident
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Wait and see! No reason to get anxious now. She may have things going on outside of work that have kept her busy. You have another date on the books – that’s a positive.
Don’t overthink things now. Go on the next date and enjoy it.
That just sounds like a rare case of “a person without phone addiction”.
> the longest so far is 5 hour
No offense, but *please* touch some grass.