Women who knew how and when they were getting proposed to, how did you handle it, stay calm and not ruin the moment for your fiancé?

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1. Not a really a thing in India, when the couple have been dating for a while it’s assumed that they would get married, infact the discuss it themselves and plan on convincing their parents so there is no surprise or drama element.

2. I made it clear early into our conversations about it that I’m really not good with surprises, so could we do things like that in lots of little chunks rather than one big moment (we’re both autistic so he’s the same lol).

   I thought having it as a surprise with everything in one go it would have been difficult for me to react in a way that was nice for both of us because it would be too stressful and I wanted to make sure I didn’t ruin it for him. Doing it this way, we both felt pretty calm doing all of it and now have really nice memories of it (even more memories since it took place over several months 😂).

   So he asked me to marry him just while we were chilling, then we sat on it for a while just happy by ourselves and told family a few weeks later. Then we agreed one day (spontaneously) that he felt like today was a good day to go out and choose a ring, having discussed the kind of thing I want. Then from that I knew he was going to come through the door and do a cute romantic proposal with the ring of his choice. That was plenty enough of a surprise for me!

3. I knew because we had been talking about it and we went ring shopping the week before. My husband is not good at surprises. I was nervous all day because he even told me which day 😅

4. Pretend to not notice that he’s sweating and seems nervous 😂

5. In my case, I knew it was gonna happen in our planned vacation. However, I didn’t know exactly when because there were many possibilities.
   Before the vacation, I had my peaks of nervousness 😅 and it helped to talk with my close friends about it. Make fun of it, including with my now fiancé. (You’re not the only one who is nervous. The guy is, too, if not more, haha)

   If it’s overwhelming, I’d say, try to focus on productive things for you personally – it worked for me.
   In my case, the when and how it ended up being a surprising to me! (Don’t overthink it. It doesn’t have to go perfectly worth of a movie scene. Nerves are part of it, and it kind of makes it cuter, storytelling worthy, and personal).
   Good luck 😊

6. I knew the week it happened … just a weird gut feeling. I put it in the back of my mind and then it happened on that Friday.

   This dude SMFH. Proposed when I came home from work early with period cramps, while I was in sweatpants. It was a very nice surprise and perfect for us.

7. Largely left it alone. We had talked about getting engaged and how and about how long we wanted to date before it happened. He just wasn’t great with keeping surprises hidden so I figured it out basically the day he started planning. But I knew if he found out it would ruin a part of it for him so I actually never told him I knew the whole time.

   If I didn’t like what he was planning or hadn’t planned on saying yes, I would have told him ahead of time because he had something very public planned.

8. I just went with it. He left work early one day and was acting kind of antsy and wanted to go on this very specific walk and I just knew. It didn’t make it any less special, though. It was wonderful.