I’ve been with my bf for 7 months and it’s been amazing. I’ve had two previous relationships but they didn’t feel this good. I feel like we we’re made for each other. We’ve called each other our soulmates and I can see spending the rest of my life with him, he’s told me he feels the same.
Our living arrangements have both changed since we met. I moved out of home in January and he moved back home in February to save. We’re now about a 40 minute drive from each other which is fine. He works during the week whereas I’m still at uni. We spend our weekends together and occasionally one night a weeknight he’ll drive to me then home to work.
I miss him terribly during the week, I have roommates but I still feel like I’m alone without him. I don’t sleep well without him. We call every night, sometimes multiple times an evening and text all day. I still feel his absence though. I have no anxiety when I’m with him and every weekend feels better than the last, I feel like I’m floating with him. It’s like I experience rebound anxiety the second he’s gone. Even when I’m busy he’s still on my mind. I haven’t told him this, I think it’ll just put pressure on him and I don’t want him to believe I can’t be without him. I know he misses me too because he tells me and texts me all the time. We’ve discussed moving in with each other next year.
It honestly scares me how badly I miss him. Is this normal? Is there anything I can do to alleviate it?
TDLR; I miss my boyfriend really badly during the weekdays when I can’t see him. It makes me down and anxious and I don’t sleep well without him.
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I think you need to address the root cause of anxiety and that may mean medication or other intervention. The fixation is your bf, but the root cause is the issue. It will cause problems in your relationship and life if you mistake the fixation as the solution to the problem, because even if you are with him all the time the anxiety will shift to a new fixation because it will still be there. The problem will still exist.