First of all let me (F36) get this out of the way – my man (M38) and I have an absolutely amazing communicative sex life. This is not a communication problem, what he has asked for during our open communication is for me to surprise him. So no need to tell me to ask him!
I also know this is very individual and that no one here can tell me what he will love.
I’m here for stories and inspiration.
So my amazing partner has told me that he wants to “get kinkier” particularly when it comes to dirty talk.
Things I routinely say that he loves:
Fuck me harder
Fuck me deeper or you’re so deep
You feel amazing
You feel so thick (he is!)
Cum for me
Fill me up
I want you to cum in my mouth/let me swallow every drop
I initiate sex just as often as he does and I am a very active participant when we have sex, but I also don’t take the lead very often once things are underway because we’ve both expressed that we love the dynamic of him leading things.
Recently he’s told me he wants me to take the lead a little more often in terms of changing positions or asking for what I want in the moment. This part I am good with, no issues or questions (but open to any thoughts or feedback all the same).
He’s also said that he wants me to talk even more than I already do, and he’s made the comment “I want you to surprise me”
We are overall fairly vanilla I think most would say, albeit very passionate intense active vanilla 🙂
We do some spanking play at times, and some rimming-type stuff, and that’s as “kinky” as we tend to get at the moment.
So for ppl who like similar things, or anyone with ideas, what are some additional things I could do or say that would surprise him? What have partners said or done to you that made your head explode?
I’ll report back once I try some things out!