I’ve had sex with my partner a few times before. I was a virgin before him and I plan on sticking with this man. Anyways. The problem is. It still hurts when we do it. First of all we have to schedule ALOT to have sex because we live with our parents and they don’t even know we’re dating let alone be in the same room alone. So it’s like we plan for 2 months only to be together for 2 hours. And due to the lack of time we can’t really explore that much.
As most people do, we started with missionary but it was like soo painful. We switched to cowgirl and it’s always cowgirl now. It’s less painful, and something I’m experienced in now so is easier. But the thing is I do all the work, and it’s starting to get boring.
If you all would be able to help me with positions that will be less painful but more exciting? Thanks!
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Have you tried doggy style yet?
Missionary with your hands wrapped around the base of his cock allows you to be in control of when you have had enough, spooning also feels great and allows him to get deep a lot easier. Laying flat on your front also feels good.
Vaginismus is a real thing, just something to think about. I have been with a decent amount of virgins and after the first few times there’s no pain, but everyone is different.
Please only read if you are over 18 years old.
Don’t have sex when it’s painful. You can cause permanent damage that will ruin your ability to fully enjoy sex forever. Please always stop if it hurts
You need more foreplay. Minimum 30
Minutes before penetration. 2 hours is plenty of time for that. You should be soaking dripping wet before penetrating. If you’re not keep going. Take an hour if you need.
Another good position might be side lying so he lays on his side and you can either face away or face towards with your body kind of perpendicular.
Yab yum might also work well.
I suspect the issue here is you struggling with deep penetration because the vagina has not adequately tented due to stress/lack of foreplay.
Spooning is a super nice position that is easy to get deep in and it feels so good too, at least for me
How wet are you? Are you using lube? Does it hurt at the entrance or at your cervix or somewhere in between? Are you able to get 2-3 fingers in there without pain?
Lots of foreplay helps. Even a female orgasm can help relax and loosen up
Lube. Get some lube. Use some lube.