i dont know how is it gonna work

5 comments

1. **About how your pussy look and the size of your clit**

   The only time we’re ever exposed to what they’re “supposed” to look and act like is when we watch porn.

   And that’s a horrible representation of what real life is. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again – you wouldn’t compare your face to that of a movie star’s, so you shouldn’t compare your vulva to that of a porn star’s.

   **About your pusy being too small for a finger to enter**

   The depth from the vaginal opening to the tip of the cervix is 3 to 4 inches when you are not sexually aroused.

   *Lets go slow – read that again!*

   Regardless, during arousal, blood flows to the genital area, and sexual excitement causes the upper two-thirds of the vagina to lengthen by forcing the cervix and uterus to ascend. The vagina also **loosens** and lubricates to help ease penetration.

   *Again, slower – read that again!*

   You might think that the vaginal canal is a continuously open space. However, this is a misperception. Think of the vaginal canal as if it were a balloon that is not filled with any air. The walls, which have the potential to expand and elongate, gently touch one another. When something is placed inside, they mold around the width and accommodate the length of a penis, finger(s), or sex toy. The ability to accommodate is related to how much you are AROUSED!

2. I presume you’ve had routine gynae exams? If not would it be beneficial to see a gynae to at least ensure there is no physical issue?

   It is inevitable that you reach a point where you anticipate the pain and that itself reinforces the problem, creating a vicious cycle.

   It’s possible that you have developed vulvodynia and/or vaginismus. However it is important to establish what, if anything, may be an underlying cause. Time to make an appt with your doctor , a female one.

3. >im 18 and i googled some of pussies at age 18and they had a big clit

   Clitorises vary a lot in size. Some are very tiny. That’s perfectly normal. As are larger ones.

   A couple things about your other concerns. First, sometimes the hole can seem really small because of a hymen partially covering it. If you’re menstruating normally, then the hole probably isn’t too small for sex to eventually happen. But it might require a lot of stretching.

   Vaginas naturally stretch out a LOT during the first few times you have sexual intercourse. And that can be painful and cause bleeding if done too quickly. (Most bleeding during initial intercourse, contrary to popular belief, doesn’t typically come from the hymen — it comes from tearing in the vaginal walls when they are stretched too fast or without enough lubrication which can cause abrasions and cuts.)

   Even putting your finger in the first few times may not feel pleasant, because that stretching happens gradually — and it can be uncomfortable at first.

   >is it normal that my hole is just too small. at age 10 i fell from a water slide and got my pussy hit and that was paining for a while but the pain stopped after while so i dont think that wouldve been a reason for this.

   It’s very unlikely that some sort of fall would have caused your vaginal orifice (hole) to get *smaller*. If anything, such things as falls tend to sometimes stretch the hymen and make penetration easier later on.

   In any case, it is completely normal for your vagina to be very “tight” initially and not elastic. But once it stretches a few times during sex, then it will stretch much more easily during future times having sex.

   The initial stretching can be painful. So go slow. Try fingering yourself a few more times, but make sure you’re wet and aroused. (Use lube if necessary.) It may be uncomfortable, but the stretching process shouldn’t necessarily be painful if you do it gradually.

   Another thing that can happen is when you’re inexperienced and tense and anxious, the muscles in your vagina might spasm a bit and make the entrance tighter, so penetrating with anything is painful or even impossible sometimes if you’re nervous. If this is happening, it may help to try to relax a bit. Stop worrying… penises *will fit* inside you. Try to keep stretching a bit with fingering… but if the pain continues after several times with even only a single finger, perhaps see a doctor. They can tell you for certain if anything is abnormal. In very rare cases, women with a very tight and thick hymen might need special techniques (or even in rarer cases surgery), but that’s VERY unlikely.

   In any case, whatever you do, if this is feeling painful now, please keep working on it yourself and/or with a partner to stretch gradually before trying to have penetrative sex. Just forcing a penis in there without prep is going to be a lot more painful — it will stretch you out and make the vagina more elastic after a few times, but your first time shouldn’t be that filled with pain.

4. >im 18 and i googled some of pussies at age 18and they had a big clit.

   Just go through [this](https://www.labialibrary.org.au/photo-gallery/#).

   Regarding the fingering thing, you have already crossed the first step, i.e getting one finger inside. It could take a while to get two fingers inside you. But it could happen sooner than what it took for you to get one finger inside. What worries me is that you’re saying that you are fainting as the result of pain. Do you use lube and are you gentle while fingering?

   And fingering or vaginal stimulation can’t be pleasurable for all women and in some it could take a while to become pleasurable as it might take a while to figure out the pleasure points. But the first thing is more common.

5. First of all I wouldn’t worry to much about the size of your clit, there are a few od these types of sites on the internet https://www.labialibrary.org.au/ where in this case women show that no one is the same and that there is no normal.

   I see other people already gave good advice about the tightness problem. But keep in mind that the best thing to do is visit a medical professional/gynecologist to determine if there are actual issues.