My (29F) partner (33M) and I have been officially together for five months or six, but we have known each other for a year. We had casual relationship before deciding to be a couple.
We laughed, we goof around, we can be our authentic self around each other. We make silly jokes, we are a good team. If there are issues arising, we talk about them. No yelling or name calling or screaming. He frustrated me sometimes and I think it’s normal. We enjoy spending time together.
We’ve had deep conversations before, our views about world, about what is happening around us, etc. We have same views on most things. BUT, I feel like I don’t have a deep connection with him. He said I’m the most understanding and caring partner he ever had. There are times that we think about the same thing without telling each other. He knows what I’m gonna say, etc. or sometimes I know what his jokes about before his close friends get them.
I’m so confused that I don’t feel like we have that kind of deep connection. Do you think it’s too early for that kind of deep connection?
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First of all: What is a deep connection to you if it’s more than what you mentioned above?
Or do you not know but rather just think that you should “feel” more in this relationship?
Have you ever felt this so-called “deep connection” with another man before him?
Sometimes even when everything aligns our souls/hearts aren’t into it as we want it to be.
This is a choice if you’d like to stay with someone that fits your lifestyle + needs even though you’ll always feel something is missing.
It’s definitely troubling because you want to be in it, but sometimes it’s something we can’t explain. And usually it’s spiritual.
TL;DR – you just know