So, we’ve been together for over two years now and I found out she’s married about 1 year into the relationship. It happened when she got pregnant (she did abortion afterwards) and decided to tell that she is still actually married to her ex, which I didn’t know before. Now, I asked why didn’t she tell me this when we first started dating and her reply was ‘I didn’t ask if she’s married’. Why would I need to ask or assume someone who’s in daing scene is married? The reason she is still married is that she lives with on a spousal visa and says she will divorce after she got the citizenship.
Now, fast-forward a year and I kinda let it be thinking that when ahe gets the citizenship she can divorce and we can forget about that stuff. Yesterday, however, we were watching movie on her iPad and she went to shower and left the iPad unlocked. iMessages were open in other tab and I saw that she’s been texting her ex so I opened iMessages. I know looking through other people’s messages is bad but I didn’t think she’s still actively texting him so I got curious. In the texts she said how she wants to come meet him when she is single. Also, her ex said that now he has a new gf to whom he apparantly didn’t tell either about him being married. So now my gf was texting him not to tell his new gf about that marriage to which he replied that his new gf would get mad if she knew. I don’t know what to make out of the whole situation. Saying she want’s to meet her ex, who already has a new gf, after she is single made me sick to my stomach. Now I don’t know what to think of it
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It sounds like she is super sketchy and you should end this relationship.
Don’t date married people. He’s not her ex if they’re married, and you’re just making your own life messy by continuing to date her.
Pretty clear her “marriage” was contrived with a friend only so that she could become a citizen. I wouldn’t worry about any romantic attachment there.
Whoa this is next level deceit. I think you need to move on.
>In the texts she said how she wants to come meet him when she is single.
Cool… I would give that to her then.
Make her single so she can go crawling back to him.
Nothing about this sounds like a happy ending.
Your GF deflected the truth about her being married… Brushed it off like it was some kind of “oops, its an irrelevant detail”
You’re in a relationship with a married woman.
There is so much about this that is hard to trust moving forward.
I’d be taking my leave.