I have a chronic pain disease and it significantly affects my ability to do normal day to day tasks like working, driving, chores, and errands. I want to date for the purpose of long term companionship.
I met one guy and he was nice and understanding on the first date. We’ve been communicating very consistently via text, his preferred method of communicating. I told him that I like to talk on the phone. He brought up the statement that I made about liking to talk on the phone, and he said he would do more of that. That was a week ago. He has yet to pick up the phone and call. So I don’t think our communication styles are good fit for each other.
So I want to continue to explore my options. And I know how challenging it can be dating someone with a disability. So I think it’s best that I’m up front about my condition. And I know it will limit my options but I want to go into a situation with all of this on the table.
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I’ve heard the same thing from people with limb and sight issues; it’s better to be direct about it and weed out anyone who wouldn’t be ok with it from the get go.
Right away.
I met a man offline about a month ago. I told him about my chronic illnesses a few weeks ago and he has been very sympathetic. Checks up on me and offers to get things for me. There’s only one illness I haven’t told him about yet as it’s a bit embarrassing but I’m getting the impression he will understand.
Are you doing online dating? I think how you meet them affects how quickly you should let them know. Some people won’t want to date a chronically ill person and others won’t mind if they really like you but I think it’s a good idea not to leave it too long before you bring it up. You don’t want to catch feelings, tell them and then they disappear.
He has yet to pick up the phone and call >> ok, so what happens when you call him?