Hey! I’m a guy, and I recently just lost my v-card.
Amazing, right?!
Not so much..
When me and my girlfriend first “did it”, it was a very slow process and I felt little to nothing until I was all the way “in”, and what I did feel was slight warmth on the tip.
For context, I was completely dry down there other than her being extremely wet and her juices getting on me from being in her. We had kissed for a while, and I played with her a bit, so she was nice and ready.
When she first put it in, I felt absolutely nothing. Strange, right? The faster she went, the more I felt, but the faster she went, the more painful it was for her, so we stopped after she said she was in pain.
That was my first time.
The second time, we tried several different positions to see if we could find something that made me feel good, but we didn’t find anything. What made me sad was that she finished at least 5 times. She had a blast, and I’m so glad I pleased her, but I didn’t finish because I wasn’t able to feel anything. Keep in mind that I’m still dry down there.
We’ve had sex around 5 times together, but nothing seems to work for me. However, she’s loving it, but she feels that she’s doing something wrong because I’m not finishing. I reassure her that it’s a me problem, but she isn’t buying it. I showed her articles on death grip, so she knows in case that’s what it really is.
So what I’m wondering is, after masturbating with the copious amounts of lotion she bought me and having the best experience in a while, I’m thinking that my insensitivity is because I need to like wet it with something other than just what gets on it from being in her.
At first, I thought I had death grip, which it may very well be, as my usual masturbation technique is licking my hand to get me wet. However, it dries, so I have to keep licking my hand. I’ve done it that way for years. I’ve never used lotion before until tonight.
I have no idea what to do.
Help!! I really wanna feel it because I’m sure she’s absolutely amazing, and I couldn’t last more than a few strokes if I could feel it.
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You’ve only done it a few times? You need to be patient. You’re used to having orgasms a certain way and you’ve trained your sexual response to work the same way for years. These are new sensations and you need to be more patient with yourself. Plus the more you worry about not finishing anything or not feeling or disappointing her, the more that puts you into the wrong frame of mind. You need to be relaxed to be open to pleasure, not stressed.
Also based on what you described about your solo sex habits, using more lube might be helpful. See if you can use the same lube alone and during sex (But not lotion, you can’t put lotion in her vagina).
What I’d suggest is do an evening of more sensual play. Get some lofi music and massage oil and a blindfold and take turns exploring eachother’s bodies looking for fun spots. It will help you relax, help you get more turned on, and maybe you’ll have sex after, maybe not, but of you do you’ll probably be more relaxed and in the right frame of mind.