I am walked over by my family, strangers, and ex-friends. It has made me feel hateful and bitter. I am not a fighter and I do not like arguing or confrontation. Not only do I not like it, but I am not good at it. How can I change this and what can I do or say to make family members, “friends”, and strangers not feel comfortable with being rude or disrespectful towards me?

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  1. OP, I suggest that you watch these videos.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7RAPS8mE94

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Dw8evpyhWo

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gf4FIt5DG4g

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A-CqifOE0Nw

    Do not think of conflicts as something bad. Dig deep into yourself to understand what is making you shy away from conflicts. Is it because you were raised to be a people pleaser? Did someone trample over your boundaries many times as a child? Did you have to be “nice”? Only you know the answer.

    But remember that it’s okay to say “No” or “I don’t like that”. If they do not respect you, you can simply shut them down by walking away.

    Be comfortable with the discomfort and the uncomfortableness. You need to make space for yourself, for you matter right here, right now.

    Edited for one more video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rtsHUeKnkC8

    Remember that if you said no and they reacted badly, then it’s not on you. It’s them. They revealed precisely who they truly are, and you have freed yourself.

  2. I have always tolerated disrespectful people because I did not want to lose them. I dont like it when they jokingly grab my hair or say mean jokes. I wanna confront them but I dont want to become a loner. I think they might address me as “sensitive” if I opened up about it.

  3. I just leave them alone. They’ll over step the boundary regardless. Just work on yourself theirs nothing better to do. Personally I think the only real way to make sure they don’t walk over you is violence. Set an example. I’m not the toughest guy but if you want to be left alone you have to stand up for yourself basically. Get you money UP gain confidence and grow past them

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