Happy Thanksgiving if you celebrate.
Being in my early thirties and single, I’m curious to know if anyone around my age is meeting folks normally anymore. Dating apps age never worked for me, but given my lifestyle it’s very hard to meet new people let alone attractive women who aren’t already married.
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The key to meeting people “organically” is to socialize within fairly large groups without any need for cold approaches.
It’s a mess. As a woman, most of the men I’ve met and dated are either looking for purely casual (which is fine, but, it’s best to be honest about that) or I’ve come across people who are still carrying a lot of baggage, past trauma and negative experiences and don’t want to do the inner work to heal themselves. You can sense how negative, jaded, angry, bitter they have become as a result.
I know it’s not easy as we live in a highly superficial and materialistic society. But, why are you even on a dating app if you’re not emotionally or psychologically ready and heathy? Also, I do think many people these days join dating apps looking for a quick fix, seeking attention and validation. And, everyone seems disposable. People also seem burnt out and don’t want to put the necessary work to build a lasting, loving, stable and healthy relationship.
I’m honestly hoping to meet someone through work at this point.
I met my wife of 10 years and 3 daughters in pof were pretty happy together
If you want to meet people normally then you have to have a large social circle. If you have a small social circle then it will be much much harder to find someone without apps unless you are willing to cold approach people you meet out and about or you are willing to try and date at work.
Not for a relationship but I prefer it because it is humane. Dating people you meet online is creepy. I get meeting up and hanging out but it’s gross to develop anything based of a username and a pic or whatever.
I started to socialize 6 month ago, mainly to find a soulmate. And as an immigrant, it was nice to have found new people outside of my job as well.
Haven’t met gf yet (dating has always been hard for me..). But I found friends, even got “accepted” to already existing friend group, as well as met some musicians like myself and we’re making a band. So although I’m still single, going out was totally worth it.