It’s been my fantasy to have 2 men at the same time for ages and I’m finally getting to do it. I matched with a young man on tinder and he’s going to join me and my husband for a night very soon. What are your guys advice for me as I’ve never done this before

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  2. Communicate with your husband extensively before, during, after the meet.

    Are there any sex acts that are off limits? Is kissing okay? Where is the other guy allowed to cum? What about protection?

    You need to consciously remember that yes, you have a shiny new toy, but don’t get caught up in the sex to the point that you ignore your husband. Make eye contact with him. Touch him. Make sure that he gets his turns like the other guy, that you have enthusiastic sex with him, too.

    That said, be sure to let go. Enjoy it!

    Consider a safe word or the like. My wife and I each have the right to veto any sex act, any meet, any partner at any time with no repercussions.

    Once the threesome is over, reconnect with your husband. Reclaim sex can be the hottest, most connecting sex you will have.

  4. Don’t have expectations. Go with the flow. Set boundaries like no anal unless you’re ok with it. Have lube and coffee. They will compete with each other. Don’t let one or the other feel left out. Send husband out for food and really get wild with the new guy. Then when you get home get crazy with husband. That way they both feel special.
    How’s tinder for finding dates? I’ve been hit or miss since CL stopped personals.

  5. I applaud you both for acting out a fantasy of this magnitude, most men can’t bear the thought of another man having sex with his wife. Pay attention to him eye contact is a big one, and just have fun, leave your emotions at the door.

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