I want to check in with my bf about our sex life and guage his satisfaction and find out where he’s at with kinks and exploring. I want to find out if there is anything he wants me to do better/different. I want to know if I’m pleasing him. Thing is, I feel so damn awkward! He knows I’m into submission, he ties me up with his belt sometimes, he plays the dominant role well and has from day 1 before we even talked about sex. We just naturally fell into the role. But on his fetlife his bdsm score was 100% switch, he says he likes “when a woman takes control.” When I try, he always takes it back.
Ie: the other day, we were making out getting hot, he told me to suck his cock but I teasingly said “nuh uh not yet” to which he grabbed my hair and pulled me down to his cock (obviously he has implied consent). I asked him how he wants me to ride him and he says “however you want.” He makes very little noise during sex to indicate how he’s liking things. After sex sometimes we have “that look” exchange of wow that was out of this world and he will say it was “good sex” but otherwise very minimal feedback.
I want to find out if I’m actually pleasing him! I want to know how I can be better in bed. And I want to know how I can fulfill his fantasies. I feel like everything (bdsm, rope play, hair pulling, choking) is all stuff he does for me. I’m not even sure if he likes it! I want to know what I can do for him. When is a good time of day to bring the topic of sex up? Like before, after, or during the act? Or just randomly? Advice on what to say and how to ask?
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