Those who cheat on your SO – how do you manage to keep it discreet?

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1. People who cheat rarely give it much thought. From
   what I have seen there is usually two kinds of cheaters: Those who are pushed into it because of circumstances like a dead bedroom, and those who just like to do it for the thrill.

   Usually they have a job that requires them to work “late hours”. Sometimes there is no job, they just bounce around from person to person. Its amazing how little money you need when you arent paying for rent and food.

   If you build expectations of time into your life, such as a busy job, long gym workout, etc its easy to fill that time with something or someone else.

   Not a cheater, just what I have observed.

2. Cheating is like gambling at the casino, sure you may get lucky at first, but greed takes over, and eventually the house always wins, aka your SO finds out eventually, because certain people can’t stop, or won’t stop, because they get greedy, and arrogant, they enjoy the thrill and the rush that comes with “doing something bad” and think they can juggle both.

   I’ve been on both sides of this fence, been cheated on, and cheated on my SO (not my current one, but in the past when I was younger) and if it goes on long enough, it will come to light.

3. Back when I used to cheat a few relationships back, I suppose I just never brought it into the house. A new phone would also help a lot. I did it in my early to mid 20’s. If you’re going to go do it you need to keep those two at the minimum. You’re usually cheating because you’re missing something. Finding it in others isn’t healthy.

   Also a note, once you cross that boundary of cheating for the first time or two, that guilty conscious goes away. There’s little stopping you emotionally once you’re already there even years down the line. If you can never do it in the first place, you save yourself a lot of future temptation.

   I never felt any worry though. And that’s half the pleasure. When it was really bad, I was probably doing 5 girls a week or something like that mostly new girls. Numbers tend to blur out fears with a rush of emotional connections.

   Edit: I would also like to note the different kinds of cheating. Cheating to fuck, and cheating for a connection. They’re both bad, but one is down the path of self destruction and the other is for self pleasure. If you’re cheating to foster something with someone else, you really should leave your SO. It’s an uphill battle to try to fix an emotionally empty relationship. Fucking just to fuck…well that’s fixable, and something a conversation with a specialist can fix a lot easier.

4. Bro looking for tips