I don’t know how to stop him from doing that. Our one year anniversary is coming up and I planned a little advent calendar for him with 12 gifts for 12 months.
He has a bad habit of opening packages I get so he found some of his gifts early. Each time, he says thanks but freaks out about how much it cost. I get a whole lecture and how it was a “waste of money.” They weren’t just random things – they were things he enjoys and wears daily.
We don’t share finances or live together yet. I do earn less than him, but honestly I have more in savings and I’m good with my money. I’ll admit I got him some more pricy things but I have money to get by. He doesn’t really financially support me other than getting me gas/bringing me food at work when he feels like it.
I just don’t know how to get him to stop freaking out about the money. I never bring it up so I don’t know how to make him stop. I need advice on how to make him stop worrying about the price and just enjoy the gift?
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Stop getting that ungrateful pos gifts.
My husband was a bad gift receiver when we were first dating. He always had something to nitpick about them. I finally got tired of it and snapped at him “The appropriate response for a gift is ‘Thank you’. Everything else is not necessary.” We’ve never had a problem since.
Have you considered simply asking him to stop doing it? “Can you please stop doing that. I am an adult, I earn my own money and I’m very capable of making sensible decisions about how I spend it. When I give you a gift, it’s because I think it will bring you joy, and I would never spend more than I can afford. Could you please just say “thank you” in the future and appreciate how much I love you and the thought I put into my gifts to you. You really do not need to worry that I am wasting my money.”