Hi! Okey, so the context is the following: my friend and I have been good friends since the beginning of our college life, we are together for almost every project group, and as we are from a technical degree we have a LOT of projects in pairs. We have a few other friends but we don’t spend as much time together with any of them as we do with each other. He’s a sweet boy but sadly a worrywart as well.
The thing is, our college offered us various options of internship programs so as we could complement our studies with work experience. I chose the nearest option to my house and I told him as it was something I felt excited about. Every internship program has more than one vacant but I thought he was gonna choose other internship. The thing is, he told me he prefered to go with me to the same company so as we could be allies, etc.
At the beginning I felt flattered but later on, when they contacted me and gave me one vacant and later on they contacted him and scheduled the interview, my family remembered me that friends and work should not be mixed. That’s when I realized that even the recommendation that I gave of him when I had the interview had been probably a bad choice.
Later on I remembered that he tends to depend a lot on my opinion and my decisions, and suddenly I felt really uncomfortable as I’m an independent person.
I fear this is gonna ruin our work opportunities and our friendship and I don’t know if I should tell him or not as I initially supported him with his decision and even recommended him. I do not want him to feel sad or anything but I don’t know anymore. Should I say him what I feel? Should I just confide in his support during the internship? AIW for feeling this way and wanting him to turn down the offer if he passes the interview?
Sorry for my bad English and thanks in advance.
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**TL:DR: I’m already in the internship but he’s waiting for his interview, should a tell him that it’s a bad idea to work together and to turn down that specific offer?**
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Is it that you really don’t want him there, or is it only that your family talked you into this? You said you were happy before.
And personally, I don’t see the issue. You don’t have to babysit him during the internship. Focus on your own work and that’s it.