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Husband (M35), Me (F, 33)
My husband cums inside me, I asked
Him if he would ever suck or lick his cum from my vagina he said “Um, no”.
When he cums in my mouth and I swallow, he makes out with me immediately. So why is it different if he does it to me? I think it’s kinky, and I would like to try it.
I would never force anything sexual upon him and if doesn’t want to try it so be it, but I think it’s hot and would be open to it.
Any advice?
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I mean, he said no. Not much else you can do if he isn’t open to it.
That seems like a kind of domme request. If he’s not into taking that role, not even enough to do it once, it’s just not really on the menu.
The difference between after oral smooches and your request is that I think there is an element of you being submissive.
It might also just be an issue with the volume he’d be licking up and he thinks it would feel gross or something.
>Any advice?
Pretty sure this
>So why is it different if he does it to me?
is a question for your husband, nor for reddit.
Generally, a surprising number of men fantasizes about eating their cum of their partner’s body. Problem being, the second they orgasm, that fantasy turns into repulsion or even disgust. With a kiss after swallowing it’s obviously different, the cum is gone.
I didn’t lik it all out the idea of that isnt interesting but I’ve gone down on my wife afterwards and licked and stuck my tongue inside her. She tasted different as it was a mix of her flavour and mine and she loved it. I didn’t need prompting I was just feeling insatiable for her and didn’t think twice about doing it.
Honestly if you think about it, it’s very different. If he is licking his cum from you he is going to be actually getting it in his mouth. However if he makes out with you after he isn’t actually getting his load in his mouth.
He says no. Leave it at that. Making out with you after you swallow his cum isn’t the same. There’s none or very little cum left in your mouth.
My advice is to respect and accept his response. You can always talk to him about it but if it’s not something he wants to do then you accept that without trying to pressure him or argue with him about his feelings or reasoning.
These aren’t equivocal actions and he said no. Leave it at that.
He has boundaries. I’m sure you have things too.
Making out after you’ve swallowed his cum is really not comparable at all to him licking/swallowing his cum from your pussy. Those are two very, very different things.
OMG I love doing that to my wife! But he said no, so you can only fantasize.
Those actions aren’t equal at all. He said no. You should probably drop it.
No means no. Not ask people how to manipulate him into doing something he clearly said no to.
As a pretty damn open minded and kinky guy, I am super turned on by the idea when I’m horny and about ready to cum… until the moment I cum, then I find the idea repulsive.
I’ve done it a few times and didn’t mind it, but getting over that mental hump with post nut clarity is rough. If he’s not even turned on by the idea when he’s horny, you’re just never going to get over that hump.
There’s just some hard ‘no’s’ you’re going to have to deal with. If my wife were to ask me, I wouldn’t be into it. She doesn’t want it in her mouth and vice versa.
While I respect his boundaries, dude is missing out. My gf and I love doing this!
There might be a difference in his mind from kissing you after a bj and licking his actual cum off/out of you. My fiance LOVES doing this but he’s also bi and a bottom with men, so he actually likes cum 😅
I do it and I really like it. I like the kink factor, as well as often I have cum first and I want to finish her off.
There is definitely an implication in society that it is gay, but personally I can’t see how licking a woman’s pussy can be gay in any way shape or form.
If it was another mans cum then there is obviously an entirely different connotation there, but when it is my own then I can’t really see a problem. It seems hypocritical to ask my wife to do it if I’m not prepared to myself.
But, each to their own and if he doesn’t like it then that’s it. You may have planted a seed in his mind though (no pun intended) so if you are lucky he may do it one day just don’t pressure or ask him again. More than once I’ve come around to an idea that was originally a no, but over time and thinking about it I changed my stance. Being pressured will definitely prevent that though xxoo
Jeez, I know I’m a straight woman but fuck that, that seems like a very reasonable thing to say no to, and unreasonable for you to keep pressing him on this.
I don’t have advice. You’re asking… what, exactly? How to convince someone to do something they already told you they aren’t interested in? Yeah. No advice to be had.
I do it. The taste of both her cum and mine mixed is pleasant. Plus my wife is turned on knowing what I am doing. It will push her over the edge of another orgasm
My partner does it and spits it in my mouth. Hot AF
It’s a turn on for my wife to be cleaned up afterwards, and I agree with what everyone is saying about the post nut feeling of not wanting to do it.
This works for us, after I cum, we snuggle and talk, usually sex talk. It may take 10 or 15 minutes, but we start getting turned on again and the thought of doing it makes me horny and I gladly go down on her and clean her up.
There’s a couple who do porn videos where he goes down on her and eats his cream pie. Years ago when they had just started their site, I messaged them about it, that was the suggestion he made to me.
I actually had that fantasy and it took me many tries to get it done, the problem is the post orgasm clarity, after an orgasm men usually lose interest in sex and may even be disgusted by certain acts, this was my case, I was disgusted by my own cum, it took me a few attempts but now I love licking my own creampie.
I wanted to do this with my ex, but she said no… Funny old world, eh?
No means no.
I always come back to this idea but I’ll repeat it…flip the tables.
If you said no and he was asking advice on how to get you to say yes, how would that look?
There are things that people won’t do in bed no matter what. I’d never eat pussy after cumming in it, but if a girl is sucking me or, like in your case, she swallows my cum, I’ll make out with her.
Here, think about it like this…
Your husband wants a threesome with you and another woman. He wants to be able to bareback it. In his opinion, he thinks it would be hot, kinky, and he wants to try it.
Again, would you want him not to respect your “no” and going on Reddit to ask strangers how to make you say “yes?”
No is a full sentence. Respect his boundaries.
Not everyone wants to taste their own juices.
And you don’t have to justify a throwaway. No one cares
Post nut clarity is going to be a hurdle even if he was into it unfortunately.
Phrasing? I will go down on someone after cumming in her without a second thought. It is intimate and sexy and a great bonding experience. Probably more clit focused, but I do not actively avoid the mess. One does end up cleaning the proverbial kitchen. It just is what it is. HOWEVER, if someone asked me to “suck the cum out” it would be a hard pass. Exact same act. Entirely different vibe.
Sort of like squirting. We all know what’s up there. Squirt while I am going down on you and I will drink that like it is the nectar of the gods. But if you say “hey, I want to piss on your face” I am made of nope. Same act. Very different vibe.
My advice is to leave it be. He said no, so at this point it’s on him to either change his mind or not.
He said no, he’s not interested. Not much else to be done. It doesn’t matter what Reddit thinks, only what he thinks.
Maybe ask him to use his fingers and play in it after?
It seems there are many responses that you should just forget about it and let it go. As a husband of 35 years (appily married for the last ten) when I finally figured out that my wife’s pleasure would always come before my own, is when our relationship really took off!
I made a commitment that year that I would never say no to her advances, never turn her down for sex, never expect my orgasms before hers and lastly, to never expect her to do anything that I wouldn’t do myself.
So you guessed it, if she asks me to clean up my own cum from her pussy after we make love I now jump to it. It’s a 10 minute cuddle, my tongue slowly and gently cleaning and massaging her beautiful mound and thighs. Some may think it’s unseemly, I know that it’s the most loving response the invitation of my partner of 35 years to worship her most sacred spot.
I can already hear some responses, What do you get out of it? I get a wife who is totally into making sure I am totally satisfied as well. We have intimate times twice a day at least and normally have an extended love making every other day. If you can beat that I would love to hear your secrets!
Carry on my fine lady!!!
I’ve done it. I surprise the wife with it sometimes and she cums so hard 10 seconds into me doing it she pretty much blacks out. Every time.
It doesn’t bother me at all, but to each their own.