My girlfriend (F26) and I (M26) have been together for 10 years and we’ve always had a close relationship and been each other’s first time. During that time, we had a break-up of almost a year, where I ended up having sex with other people, but she didn’t have any other partners apart from me. I’ve always had some kind of cuckold fetish, and during that short break-up I even had an mmf experience, but I don’t even count it properly because we were all very drunk (she doesn’t know about that and its better that way, belive me)
It’s always been a closed relationship, so it took me a while to bring up the idea of cuckolding to her, but when I did, it was well accepted, even more so because over time she told me that she had a desire to meet and have sex with other people, even though she wanted to stay with me, because it was really a carnal desire and she can’t spend her whole life having only dated one person, which I agree with. So we agreed to be open to trying a threesome with another man first, but then thinking about the possibility of her going out alone with someone else after that.
Fast forward, a guy at the gym hit on her and she accepted his advances until she told him she has a bf but we were trying to open de relation had have a desire for an mmf. The guy well accepted and we’ll probably do it in the next few days.
The tips I’m asking for is because although she accepts the mmf, for her it might be better to first go out alone and then do the threesome, but I prefer the opposite. And she’s also afraid of someone being left for a long time during the sex, which I believe won’t happen, but which I also have no problem with just watching for a while.
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This is threesome 101 but since it sounds like you haven’t done it before: the most important thing the two of you can do is lay out the ground rules around your expectations.
Opening up a relationship is always an experiment in trust.
Personally, I always think it makes more sense for couples to move slowly by testing the waters before actually inviting someone else to bed. Your a lot less likely to step on a mind and blow up your relationship if you’re moving at a more measured pace. Easy to try is to go to a strip club Where she gets a lap dance from a male stripper while your present. And then afterwards, the two of you can talk about what that experience was like and whether or not you enjoyed it as much as you think you were going to.
It’s way of testing the waters around comfort and trust and jealousy, all that shit.this guy from the gym isn’t likely to go anywhere if you put things on hold with him for a few weeks in the meantime.