Maybe I can make it a few days without feeling miserable, but that’s it. Then it’s weeks-months of misery before I feel average or maybe feel good for like a hour. Maybe an hour.
I have been working so hard on myself. Doing everything in the book that has the potential make me feel better. I have been working on this for years now and have made zero progress in actual feeling better. I have gotten better at talking to people, taking chances, eating better, exercising, and all that stuff l, but none of it actually makes me feel better.
I’m hoping someone has found help somewhere. I won’t spend my whole life feeling like this.
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Maybe just expect to feel miserable, so the bar is so low expectations wise that relatively you feel okay
I haven’t.
Steroids fixed everything for me.
Elatedly happy 24/7 after 11 days.
Liking my body after 3 months.
Met my wife after 4 months.
Engaged after 8.
Married after 4 more.
Never!
I don’t have an answer for you, just well wishes you can find it. I’m in the same boat and I think people don’t understand how harmful and corrosive long-term aggressive misery is and that it’s something you can be stuck in.
On the off chance you weren’t aware, depending on your location there might be some free local resources for professional mental health work, or at least support groups and such. There might be significant limits to what they can help with or their capacity, but it may be worth taking a look at if you haven’t yet. Again, best of luck in finding a solution, it’s a nightmare.
Find an interest and join a group for that interest. After retiring young for medical reasons I was very down. I saw on FB that the local theater was holding auditions. I went and told them I’d like a back row part or work behind the scenes. 4 years later my best friend group comes from that one Saturday afternoon. I think theater groups are very very accepting. There are all sort of people that do that stuff.
Cut negative people out of your life
You get use to it and accept your life will probably always be miserable. Life is hard, its harder if you are dumb.
For whatever reason listening to music has helped me a lot, like having a soundtrack to focus on