so I (22f) and my bf(22m) of 3 years have very different love languages. I personally love quality time, while his is physical touch. I only like hugging, cuddling, etc. occasionally but he wants it all the time. I just can’t provide for that. I try really hard but he sees that I an visibly uncomfortable. I love him so much and I know he loves me too but I feel bad not accommodating him. What do I do?
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Having different relationship goals and desires is one of my “break up” qualifications. You’ve been together for three years though, so it doesn’t make sense to toss out all that investment – especially when you already love each other. Sounds like you need some open communication.
1. Communicate openly and honestly. Talk to him about your discomfort with physical touch and find a compromise that works for both of you.
2. Try to initiate physical touch on your terms. Make it a point to hug, cuddle, or hold hands with him, even if it’s only for a short time.
3. Find other ways to express your love for him. Quality time is your love language, so plan special dates or activities that allow you to spend quality time together.
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