How long should one give a new sex partner to how to make me cum?

I’ve (24f) been seeing a new guy (25m) for the past few weeks, I really like him as a person and do find him attractive. But I’m struggling a little as he’s only made me cum twice. With my previous relationships and hook ups over the past few years, there was a strong and fast sexual connection where I was very turned on and multi-orgasmic. This new man is good in bed, I don’t find him as exciting as my ex but he does have plenty of experience. This may be a silly question as I’ve heard people talk about building a sexual connection, but I love losing myself in bed and I’m worried if it doesn’t happen soon I may lose sexual interest. He has expressed concern the last time I stayed at his as he says he finds me a challenge and that it is usually easier for him, but I know in the past I have found it easier with others. He does finish faster than my exes do but he can go for round two pretty quickly which I like. I’m also somewhat kinky sometimes and don’t know when is too soon to ask for these things, I asked him if he is into tying people up and he said yes but that he likes to keep it for a special occasion. I guess I would appreciate any pointers for helping someone learn how to turn you on. I also have been somewhat uninterested in sex because of how toxic it turned in my last relationship, and I wonder if that has impacted things at all. Have you ever been able to build a strong sexual connection with time? A friend recently propositioned me and it turned me on heaps, now I’m worried I may have unwittingly given up my freedom too quickly to avoid hurting this man who I’m not officially with yet. I want to continue seeing him but now he’s reawakened my sex drive I’m ironically finding myself thinking about other people too