I (21F) have been dating and seeing the same guy (20) for a couple months now. He is a pretty hairy dude which I love, and the first time we had sex we laughed about how it’s been awhile since he’s trimmed anything up down stairs and he didn’t think that the night would end on such a good note. The second time we had sex I was kind of expecting that things would be a little neater, they were not but I let it slide. We just saw each other again recently and it’s become clear that I don’t think he has any intention of cleaning things up. I don’t mind hair one bit but having my face buried in a massive bush is not really my favorite thing. Is it rude to ask him to clean up a little before I see him again? I really like this guy and I definitely seen this going somewhere but how do I communicate this?
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Yep. Same thing if he were to ask you to shave.
Just ask and smile!
Absolutely give a practical reason. Use the sandwich method. Something positive before and after.
“You’re so sexy, I have a request though. When I go down on you I keep getting hair in my mouth which makes it tricky to really get down there, do you mind trimming? I love that you’re hairy overall though.”
Not rude at all. In fact, I might ask to help him to make sure it’s done right.
You can tell him your preferences.
I would stop short of telling him to change his pubic hair for your pleasure.. that seems pretty controlling.
Not rude, just say it
This answer will be the same as if the genders were reversed.
You are allowed to have a preference. You are allowed to state that preference and ask if he will do that.
He is allowed to say no.
You are allowed to refuse any and all acts with him
Nope, not rude at all unless you say it in a rude way. My fiancé loves going down on me, but every now and then she’ll like pointedly pull a hair out of her mouth and just look at me, and be like “you could use a trim” and then we both just laugh about it and I take care of that the next morning when I’m doing all my grooming shit.
Nope not rude.
Say it.
Tell him that you don’t like flossing with pubes and you’ll stop going down there unless he trims the jungle.
No. Just tell him that it’s better manscaped
It’s gross not to shave