Not even suggesting a hang out type of friendship. But for context, there are many people that I’m basically on a “Hi and Bye” type of situation with. I lack conversational skills AND interest in things.
I feel like interesting in things is key because I can say “hey did you see that new movie?” Or something which is a great conversation starter, when 9/10 times I don’t partake in anything pop culture related.
But back to the original point, I feel like the “Hi and Bye” stuff gets old super quickly when you aren’t actively building a rapport with a person. So with everything I’ve given I’d like some tips on taking acquaintances to the next level to where we stop and have conversations.
Ps: I lack the skills to converse with people who I have stuff in common with so when I feel like I have nothing in common with a person my conversational skills get even weaker, are there any tips for this?
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You basically have to be more entertaining than those screens people hang out with in the evenings. Otherwise I feel like most people just hang out with people they have been hanging out a while with and feel comfortable with for the normal every day stuff. You need to produce quality time to soften their defence and habits 😉
Ice breakers could be special fun activities, all the way up to planning short trips together- with a group for a start … special events seem to produce a positive association with your persona – people had fun during a trip or event and you are being associated with that feeling. Of course sports or other shared activities help too- easy first steps to share a hobby with someone else. None of this works unless you do the reaching out – I feel like most people don’t do it and wait for being asked by someone else. Invitations for a lunch or coffee are something everyone should be able to do as an MVP…