hello, kind of an embarassing question. im talking to this guy that i’m really physically attracted to, and he made it decently clear he wants to fuck. now, if this was something that could develop into a relationship, i’d tell him, but ive kind of understood that he doesnt want a relationship. so we’d be in it only for the sex. i am not a total beginner but ive never gone that far. but i’m scared he’d back out lol what would you do? (consider that he wrote to me first so I believe he’s decently interested)
Also I quite enjoy his company so I wouldnt want this to be like sex and we never talk to each other again – but I dont want a relationship also lmaoo help
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This is up to you and your standards. There is nothing wrong with you being a virgin or what so ever, but i think you should ask yourself the question if you want your first bed partner to be with someone who probably doesnt want a relationship.
If that isnt a problem for you and if you think you can trust the guy, then go for it.
But if you want to be in a relationship or if you are not sure if you can trust him, then i would advise you not to do anything.
I think you should feel safe discussing this with him, that this is your first time and what you prefer and expect. It might be a difficult conversation but i think you should rather have it clear since the beginning then have regrets later.
Goodluck 🍀
Just stay quiet hook up and enjoy if you need tips on what to do or how to do it I’m here to help
Yes, tell him.
1. Most men would be flattered to be chosen – and would make an extra effort to make it special for you. If he is not that kind of man, he’s the wrong hook up
2. If you were experienced and the guy wasn’t – would you rather it was just another hook up or would like the idea that this evening would be something your partner would remember for a long time to come?
3. First time sex can be awkward – and if you are not properly prepared (i.e. lots of foreplay), it can be unpleasant. He may assume you are into a wild passionate hookup – when what you need is something slower and gentler.
4. Women sometimes bleed when their H is broken – you should do this on a towel.
5. Why lie?
6. For the best first time experience – tell your partner
You should tell him but right before doing the deed, just so he knows that he has to be gentle. I wouldn’t tell him with a lot of time in advance because men usually get into their heads, tell him right before doing it so he doesn’t have time to think lol