this whole last year has been a lot of thinking on my social skills, after countless people have said one thing or another about me, I’ve come to realize that i haven’t come very far, at least in the skills i want to develop.
I want to know how i can be someone who others can go to when they need help, I want to know how i can get people to stop viewing me in the ‘arrogant idiot’ light, and why that, whenever i ask something i feel like i do know the answer but actually want a clear-cut answer, people take to it negatively.
example: friend goes on red on discord, to me it’s seen as “oh they don’t want to be bothered”, but the others are beginning to be worried, i picked up on the fact that red probably means something bad, but, i don’t want to assume, so i ask what it means, and get called stupid for it. this kind of thing tends to happen a lot whenever i want a clear-cut answer, and whenever i defend myself, it’s seen as being ‘defensive’ and I’m told to simply accept it instead of explaining myself.
tldr; I’m seen as the ‘arrogant idiot’ kind of ‘character’ and nobody takes me seriously, what can i do to improve how people view me.