Me and my girlfriend have been together for around 4 months now and everything is amazing and I feel like we love eachother a lot. One thing that bothers me though is my performance in the bedroom isn’t consistent, my tongue is really my strong suit, and before sex I get her there usually 3 times with a combination of my fingers and my tongue. After I finish when I don’t last line enough I feel awful and she tells me after what you just did with your tongue you do not need to worry.So my question in your opinion is this enough?
Thankyou for reading and I apologise I know this is a lot of information and don’t mean to overstate but would like so insight, thankyou.
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If she’s telling you she’s happy and satisfied then believe her. Most women prefer oral anyway and don’t like it when you take a long time to cum because that shit starts to hurt after awhile. So I wouldn’t worry about it.
For me it wouldn’t be but i’m not your girlfriend. And your girlfriend is telling you to not worry. So don’t worry.
Yes it is more then enough, you don’t have anything to worry about
Dude, you’re doing just fine. Don’t stress it.
She’s satisfied. Don’t worry
No one but your gf can answer this. She may love or hate piv.
What your question shows is a lack of communication, to what degree I can’t tell but I can tell you’re not talking openly and honestly, at least about sex.
Do NOT worry man, everything is fine. I went through the same thing, got her off at least 3-5 times before penetration and I never lasted long either. She never cared how long I lasted because everything I did felt so amazing. If you both finished and enjoyed it the entire time: Mission Accomplished.
3 orgasms without penetration? Good luck keeping that up lol
Actually that’s the dream for most women
Just stop giving a fuck.
Why can’t you last long? I never got it. I can pound away for like 45 minutes straight. Even in that case usually women don’t get off to just the pipe.
You should work on your stamina though bro. She’ll get bored just having a dude munching every time.
She says it’s cool but it’s not. Sack up and slam her like a man.
If you give a fuck then it’s just a matter of time. Jerk off like 4 times a day if you need to. Wreck your own cock with death grip and stop making sex a big deal. It’s unattractive to have to reassure you every five minutes that you are good enough.
That’s a huge buzz kill. Just slam her for as long as ya can and work up to it.
If she doesn’t feel like your splitting her in half then you are doing it wrong.
You make her cum 3 times before you do? Dude you’re fine 😂
>she tells me after what you just did with your tongue you do not need to worry.
>So my question in your opinion is this enough?
She’s TELLING you it is, why don’t you believe her? Stop being so insecure and listen to your girlfriend. She’s the only one that matters.
i enjoy sex for 20 minutes top after that it starts to hurt and it gets not enjoyable. With oral u could go for hours and it would still be great. Trust me when I say if it was between the two I would pick oral every god damn time.
How about sharing some oral tips
She literally told you not to worry about it. So… don’t.
Your girl just told you lol
she’s really happy, dont worry.
From what I hear from women, you’re already doing better than most men out there! So ya, believe her when she says she’s satisfied. I mean you can still try to work on your stamina for your sake, but there isn’t really a need to worry about it.
Most women can’t orgasm from penetration anyway, so getting her off via other means will make most women happy and not care if the PIV sex is short.
Why is it that you’re concerned anyway? I think maybe you should dwell on that a bit. She’s told you she’s satisfied, so do you have a reason not to believe her? I think you’ll find it’s entirely an internal dialgoue going on that is making you second guess yourself. Once you determine that it’s entirely within yourself, and that you don’t have any reason from her to think she’s dissatisfied, I think it’ll be easier to accept for yourself.
I’ve certainly had issues myself with anxiety, depression, etc, which has led me to allow my internal dialgoue and criticisms take over, which just erodes my own happiness as well as theirs. It’s not a good place to be for anyone. Working through it all, and working on just believing what people say/do and not getting in my own head with my own criticisms and anxieties has been a huge help for me. It took a lot of time, work, and it’s still a bit of a battle within myself, but it gets easier over time. I still keep reminding myself that my girlfriend is extremely happy, satisfied, and I’ve helped create an open line of communication that I feel confident that if she wasn’t happy or satisfied, she’d tell me. That helps a lot whenever the worry and anxiety creeps up. It feels silly at first, telling yourself one thing, but not really believing it. But the more you do it, the easier it gets, and the more you actually BELIEVE it to be true as well. I can’t even discribe fully how much of a better feeling it is to get to that point where you (mostly) BELIEVE it.
It’s enough. She’s telling you this, listen to her. Most problems in the bedroom come from NOT getting your s/o to climax. You’re good, nothing to worry about.
try doing some exercises i forgot the names of the muscle from the penis, kegel or something are called, Also train you lower abs.
Thankyou everyone some opinions from both sides of the coin and advice taken.
I wouldn’t worry about it, alot of guys struggle to even get their gfs off once during sex, nevermind 3 times
Bro, you’re fine, relax.
First, listen to her when she tells you you’re fine.
Second, get used to the fact that there are a lot of women where orgasms are a lot more finicky than for men. Even more so when they are supposed to come from vaginal intercourse. For many, that never happens. There’s psychological factors, stress, relaxation, trust, and physiological factors. But the mere fact that she comes in your presence and from what you’re doing at all, (and multiple times!), that’s great. You’re good.
And third, even that can change l. 4 months isn’t much. Keep going at it confidently and get used to each other even more. It may still get better, the trust gets stronger, you work out more of each others preferences, etc. She might still come from sex, but that may take a while. But if she notices that you are just trying to get her to come, that’s gonna put pressure on her, and erode the trust, because what the hell are you doing counting orgasms and minutes-until instead of enjoying yourselves? So when I say relax, I mean both “You can relax because you have nothing to worry about” and “You should relax, because if you don’t, it might actually give you something to worry about.”
Believe me, my ex partner was good with fingers and tongue.
Fingers and tongue made me orgasm each time and no need for further penetration, if she tells you that it’s enough, don’t worry it is.
In my experience, some women love good head and if you give good head, they’ll love you for it.
If she says she’s enjoying herself, listen to her.
Only 25% of women orgasm through penetrative sex
It’s enough. Definitely, source – a woman
I’m on the same boat as you. You’re fine
Yah man, more than enough.
In fact, you’re winning.
You’re going above and beyond. Relax.
I mean to me that sounds just fine, I know some women are size queens but I would take her at her word on this one
Fellas write this down. Always score with at least one layup before you take the three points shot.
Psychologically you are going to be way less pressured if they came once already, and if you get the second or third with your dick, icing on the cake. Kinda literally and figuratively, Jesus I’m good at analogies today…
Satisfaction is what matters at the end of the day. How you get there is not a point of concern. Need a vibrator some times? Do it.
She tells you not to worry, so don’t worry. We are in the exact same situation brother, trust me. If she says she’s happy, she’s happy. About 3/4 of women simply cannot finish without clitoral stimulation. I’m sure she loves having penetrative sex anyway. You can try a modified missionary while using a finger/thumb on her clit to give her more of a sensation. But really, if you keep asking if she’s happy and she says she is, you should trust her and take her word for it.
Bro you’ll get better with game with time dont sweat it … but no tongue alone is fun but eventually you’d need both cuase unlike men.. women have 3 types of orgasms and clitoral stimulation is just one aspect
Definitely good enough, especially if she’s telling you it is.
I have the same thoughts sometimes last long but seeing it’s usually far between times usually fast and more oral than anything luckily pretty good at it
maybe TMI but i’ve only ever came from oral. lowkey after that I don’t care if the dick gets me off. caz I’m satisfied, I’m p sure she’d feel the same. 😅 you make sure she’s pleasured. I feel like as long as BOTH of you are satisfied after, you’re good dude.
Been married 10 years now to a woman that can only orgasm from oral. You good dog.
Damn I’m jealous! A man has only made me orgasm one time so kudos to you. Don’t even worry dude you’re doing great
She got off 3 times? She is good. Don’t sweat it. And if there IS a problem and she isn’t telling you, that is on her.
I’ve been in a relationship where he only lasted a short while but got me there multiple times before. I was never unsatisfied. In fact he was one of the most consistently satisfying partners I’ve had.
First, every women is different, so don’t compare one to another.
Second, not every women ever gets an orgasm. So she’s probably thrilled to death that she gets more.
Not every woman can even orgasm from just straight sex.
Just remember to check in with her and ask her to be honest with you because you’re willing to do whatever to make her happy.
I think you’re doing fine, and it’s up to her to tell you if its not enough.
Mankind was a mistake
I’ll tell you what a guy I see does to last longer.. He switches between his tounge and fucking. Switches positions, flips me around and sideways then goes back to the tounge. Just pulls out when he gets close and goes back to the tounge then a different position.. Makes the sessions last a really long time. He should give lessons….
For some people it’s enough, and for some it’s not.