I’m now 28(m), and it seems like these days theirs a lot of insta and tiktok girls that flaunt themselves and even the girls that don’t. But there’s no doubt they all want a guy that knows how to fuck.
Everyone talks about the bad side effects of porn. But for me it set a standard. It’s taught me about what girls like and what they don’t. What’s overbearing and what’s acceptable.
I have to say I haven’t had an unsatisfied partner since I upped the standards of myself through what I’ve viewed. Anyone else feel the same way…or do I sound ridiculous?
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Yes you sound ridiculous! Guys thinking they ‘know what to do’ because of something they saw, or thinking porn is a realistic representation of sex and what women like have led to some of my most disappointing and awkward experiences!!
What some women like, others won’t, what some women don’t like, others will, what some find overbearing, others won’t etc. There is no “I’ve found what girls like and what they don’t” because individuals have their own likes and dislikes.
First, of course, not ALL girls are the same. Random girls on Instagram are of course going to present that vibe. It’s all a facade for social media.
Girls want to enjoy sex, just like guys do. But men who think they know what feels good for women based on male-centered porn, aggressive fingering, positions that please the man or look attractive to the man, calling women aggressive and demeaning names, choking, spanking, etc. are usually not pleasing a women as well as they should be pleasured.
None of these things are naturally what women want…We’re conditioned to because we’ve been raised on porn too. But women act a lot with men. It’s often more enjoyable in terms of orgasm for many women to masturbate on their own than for men to fuck them or finger them or eat them out.
The male ego when it comes to sex really blinds them from the opportunity to make their girls feel so good.
I think everybody wants a partner that knows how to fuck regardless of social media
Imagery and description are a decent way to learn about most things.
In sexually-repressive environments, porn might provide the only imagery-and-description that is available to most people. So porn can easily be better than nothing.
But it’s important to remember that porn is heavily modeled on fantasy scenarios. Some people are good at keeping that limitation in mind, and some aren’t.
As a straight guy, I’ve found that lesbian porn — not “ha-ha girl-girl” stuff for the male gaze, but actual lesbian erotic material — provides the most-instructive and least-fantasy-informed porn I’ve ever found.
I don’t rely on it exclusively — since my interest in fantasy material is as strong as anybody else’s. But I think lesbian porn is an invaluable source for a straight guy looking for ways to expand his knowledge of how to pleasure a female partner.
I don’t think you sound ridiculous. I mean I wouldn’t say that porn taught me anything about what they like and what they don’t but I no doubt honed things like stroking and rhythm from amateur porn when I was younger.
Now also 28 and have never met a unsatisfied partner. Did a lot of other reading and research to learn though, didn’t rely completely on porn.
I will say… I don’t think any man who has watched porn should have trouble at least FINDING the clitoris.
Knowing what to do with it is more of a question mark, but we all have to start somewhere?
Granted I’m a scientist at heart so my favorite porn is stuff like Nina Hartley showing us how she’d eat Sunny Leone’s pussy and explaining each step. Both hot and educational!
You sound incorrect.
Porn is to real sex as WWE wrestling is the competitive college wrestling.
Nearly nothing can be learned from it, it’s entertainment for an audience. Worlds apart.