Lately ive wanted to stop being a pushover and stand up for myself more, especially in my work environment and with my colleagues who are also my friends. But when i do, i get told that i am looking for problems. I dont complain all the time, but just a couple of times when something bothers me like someone pushing me or being mean or inconsiderate. So either im a pushover or looking for problems. Could it be because they dont respect me? Or am i really problematic and starting something because im speaking up for once? Thats not fair