And please don’t just say “enthusiasm”… my bf of 3 years just told me our sex is boring and that’s why he never wants it, and I feel so confused. I’m definitely enthusiastic and make it obvious that I enjoy it the entire time, I go down on him regularly as well.
He has never seemed adventurous, as far as wanting to do anything outside of regular PIV, missionary/cowgirl/doggy. He seems kind of jammed up/bashful/prude sometimes if I’m being honest, but he claims that’s not the case. So I know we’re vanilla but I find it enjoyable just for what it is even if it’s not “exciting”. He’s really attractive and really sexy in bed even when he’s not trying hard at all. Just the way he moves and his body alone arouse me and make me weak in the knees.
I’ve asked what he likes best, how he likes it, what his fantasies are, and he has nothing to say. He has said before sex in general is not that big of a deal to him and he is not super into it generally.
Today he said it’s not his job to make me less boring in bed and that the idea of it exhausts him. This is the first I’ve heard of this in 3 years of begging for answers when comes to improving our sex life and why he only wants it once in a while.
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Your boyfriend is the worst kind of person. Declares a vague problem (“sex is boring and that’s why I don’t want it”), doesn’t have any specific ideas of what could put a dent in the problem, then puts the onus on you to come up with the solution entirely on your own, hoping that one of the things you randomly present to him will solve the problem.
What a great partner.
Sorry, I’m a little confused. In paragraph 3, you made it seem like he isn’t interested in sex basically at all. In paragraph 4, however, you made it seem like he expected you to improve. If he doesn’t care, he wouldn’t need you to improve.
This isn’t a you problem. He’s giving you bullshit vague answers and making demands without giving any hints.
My wife is open to pretty much anything. Sexually, she fishes, target shoots with me. We garden, cook together. Everything we do together makes the sex side that much more enjoyable
I’m sorry, but that’s not the case. Men care more about quantity over quality. Outside of a anal, BJ, HJ, or a titty fuck there aren’t many ways for us to be stimulated the way a woman can. If your marry him you’ll end up in a sexless marriage. You don’t want that trust me. It’s best to break up.
I have been with my wife for 20 years and we normally just use missionary and cowgirl. We have sex about 3 times a week and I could do it most days. It’s not the positions that matter.