Hey I’m a 38(f) I was in a situationship with a 38(m) for almost a year , in the beginning it was great but I could tell he started changing his mind about us like 6 months in , but I already loved him so much that I didn’t want to let him go , so I held on with so much hope , but when I finally asked him what we were and he said just friends , I was completely done . It’s been almost four months without him and I’m still broken !! Help I need advice to get over him 😢
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cry about it. some men don’t even experience love in their lives all because of genetic factors out of their control.
Protip dont get in situationships. Either date or be friends. Especially do not be in situationships lasting 6months if you have not progressed to dating within a week or 2 then one or both people are likely to lose interest.
In terms of advice to get over him, you can choose to get back into the dating field and meet people. You can choose to be single and discover your interests and learn more about yourself for some time.
It’ll take time. You can’t always get the same results back. And it’s just how life is. I think if you go on some dates, you’ll find out that there’s more guy who would love to be with you
Please explain how you define a situationship. In my mind, if this is not a considered a committed relationship then either partner can walk away; no harm, no foul.
How is a situationship different from Friends With Benefits?
Aw, I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through heartbreak. It’s tough when someone you care about doesn’t feel the same way. Healing takes time, so be patient with yourself. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family, and focus on self-care. Explore your passions, indulge in hobbies, and take care of your physical and mental well-being. Eventually, you’ll start to feel better and open yourself up to new possibilities and love. Keep your head up! You got this.
I’m sorry that you’re going through this! It’s difficult but I always say the first key to change is awareness and it sounds like you are already aware of what you couldn’t have with him.
Some things that I constantly remind myself when I get my heartbroken the way you did are:
1. I remind myself that I wouldn’t want to have a “partner” that doesn’t love me. If I have to ask, then it’s not natural. Would I want to be in that sitch?
2. Be glad it’s over and that you didn’t spend more years of sadness, qiestioning and long to receive the love that you give. What you had with him was sunk cost. Nothing you can do about it but at least you don’t jave to waste more time in the future.
3. There are people who are compatible with yourself and you just havenofound it yet. You can’t force others to like you and it’s only natural that qe won’t go well with everyone.
Good luck to you and I hope you find the love you are searching for. 🙂