I like this guy but the sex is TERRIBLE 21F
i was seeing this guy, the first time we had sex was decent, granted we only did 2 positions… we fucked 5 times… now before the last time I actually had a convo about this, and he said it’s because he was nervous to change positions or be “dominant”, I told him I was completely being okay with dominated … well cut to the final time we fuck… still no oral (after hinting it), and the same old grinding, and then I get on top of him. When we went to switch positions he lost his boner completely, he kept apologising and said this happened before with someone else but idk.
He isn’t a virgin , he had an ex gf before and apparently even use to be pegged by her. He apparently does enjoy being dominant, but it doesn’t seem like it all
Is he just not attracted to me? :/
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You know what is available if you stay. Myself… I would make a statement I need to be single for awhile life is good but we need to be more mature. And it is very obvious if he fight to keep going he is emotionally dependent on you… or hoping for preferential treatment.
If you have brought it up and he isn’t willing to change anything, then there is unfortunately only one other place to go.
I was about to reply with a serious, thoughtful response to this post until I read down to the following statement: “He even used to be pegged by her”.
Why hint instead of being direct? Youve only done it 5 times. Let him know what you want, ask what he wants, see if something makes him uncomfortable, etc. Youre still learrning eschothers bodies, give it time and communication
Same post from yesterday??
OP trying hard to get people to pay for her OF/Nudes.
So many fatherless girls on this sub 😭
All the advice here is very bottom and weak. Look just because he is a cool guy doesnt make him a master blaster or jack rabbit or a rose. Stop, masturbating for a while,if you do. Give yourselves like 2 weeks of no intersourse. That means no shower head or toys. For sex to be thrilling it has to to be for that occasion only. Outside that you are wreacking havoc on your pleasure reseptors and lose all the joy.
“He apparently does enjoy being dominant”
Nothing in what you wrote suggests he has a single dominant bone in his body and everything points to a submissive or passive orientation.
He may be attracted to you yet he may be in way over his head.
He has sex with you, he is attracted… maybe he is really nervous, maybe he doesn‘t know better. Talk to him, tell him what grind your gears…
Move on. He’s not the one for you.
Maybe he’s not a natural dom? Gotta be compatible, see if he can muster up more oomph, ask for some things (mild hair pull, neck/shoulder constriction – careful, pulling/folding you while fucking you hard, telling you to do stuff spontaneously, doggie pounding). If he’s not down to do those things, maybe he’s just not a match for you.
Also, its common to get a little softer during/after cowgirl. I wouldn’t sweat that, happens to the best of us.