I noticed that i tend to lie during conversation, but i noticed two diferent types.
Normal conversation: the interactions with people i know and i want to have, the ones i put myself out there or start. In those, i just lie to get out of a awkward situation (if someone ask me if i did a project and things like that and i know i can make it later, i tell them that yes. Or if people ask me if i remember something i forgotten, i tend to act like remembered.) Both those things come from my horrible memory, but it never harmed anyone.
Automatic conversations: the ones where people come to talk umprompeted. The ones i tend to not care. On this ones, i just say what the person wants to hear, even if i know shit of what are they talking about. Bullshit after bullshit.
I just want to know if these things are bad to continue doing or not? I never tought this was problem, as most people think i am a good talker.
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Yes it’s bad. You’re dishonest, you’re fake and coward. Instead of telling the truth you use deception to avoid disagreement and/or save face.
Who cares if you do not remember something? “I don’t know remember” is not wrong when it’s true.
Avoiding conflict is one thing but avoiding disagreement is another. The former is having solid social graces, the latter is cowardly behavior.
Everyone lies, some people do it as a copying strategy on a daily basis. There are lies with bad intentions and lies that help a conversation. You aren’t a coward just for lying you are just being human. No need to get gaslight into becoming a moralistic perfectionist. It’s a good sign that you are even thinking about such stuff, no need to worry
It’s common to exaggerate or adjust details in social interactions, but when it becomes a pattern, it might affect trust.
Reflect on why you feel the need to do this—fear of judgment, avoiding conflict?
Honesty can deepen connections, so consider being more genuine, especially in meaningful conversations. It’s a step toward authenticity.