Hi there! My SO (27F) & I (26M) have planned a staycation at a nice resort for the upcoming weekend. She has been hard at work recently but despite her busy schedule, she always makes time to meet and was always there when I needed it. Hence I really wanted to use this opportunity to create the best date for her!
We’re really looking forward to it (after a few long weeks of work) and obviously planning to have sex together. To all couples out there, I just have a few questions to ask if you’ve had similar experiences!
Qn 1 isn’t really sex related but 2-4 is.
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1. Any ideas to spice up the date! Since Christmas is coming up, we both agreed for this date to be Christmas themed! I plan on bringing her out for dinner at her favorite cafe and explore some Christmas attractions after dinner. We are also bringing some small Xmas decoration items (Mini Xmas tree, fake snow, fairy lights, xmas socks etc) to set the mood in the hotel room, which she’s super excited about. I’m also bringing along a projector (as we both love movies) and a couple board games to kill time. Anything else that you guys recommend?
2. How many times did you had sex during the night? Since it is a staycation, obviously having sex just once isn’t satisfactory for us. Am just wondering how to go back into having sex again without being awkward? Eg. after having the first sex, we go back to doing things together, how to lead to having sex a second time? (Sorry if it sounds like a stupid question but it’s both of our first time actually spending long periods of time together HAHA)
3. Any further advises to spice things up, especially for sex/ foreplay! I’ve not actually bought her any lingerie/ sex toys or had conversations like that. Need advices here
4. I’ve read online that there are steroids/ meds to be taken for guys to last longer in bed? Is this true?
All in all, I’m just hoping to make the date as special & memorable for her as I can (and have some nice sex). Hehe
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Look up restaurants in the area that you think you’d both enjoy. Read there menus and order a variety of things you think you’d both enjoy before taking her. Reserve a table and ask that they have the table served as soon as you arrive giving them your names to add as a personal touch. Pay before hand so as soon as your ready you can walk right out with the restaurant wishing you a good day as you leave. The point being that everything is handled from start to finish. She just has to enjoy everything and get to experience a event where you handled every detail to make her happy. If she doesn’t like what you ordered you have the rest of the trip to eat other things so it’s no loss. But the fact that you managed every detail is attractive cause you seem like a man who’s in control. Also don’t tell her you did any of this just let her be on along for the ride getting service she’s never gotten before and leaving a restaurant seeming like you’d didn’t even half to pay despite them knowing you both by name.
The rest is just intimacy, your trying to create an experience that’s pleasure able for her without it needing to be sexual. She already likes you and wants to have sex with you so your job is just to show her what an amazing guy you are by giving her experiences no other guy has. Make her feel beautiful and desired by telling her, touching her, and creating an experience for her to enjoy. You can even control this by telling her what to wear when you go out, so you know she looks sexy and you don’t have to exaggerate.
Hot oil massage to turn her on. Look up actual massage techniques! Don’t just go for the privates legs and butt. Or you can run a bath for her with bath oils/bomb and a hot towel to place over her face as she enjoys the water. Wash her hair and her body for her and play music.
As far as sex. 1/2 teaspoon of cayenne in water works similar to viagra. Drink 30mins before and you’ll feel it when it’s working. Should work for her as well since what it’s doing is thinning and increasing blood flow which when your turned on makes you more likely to get really turned on. Recommend drinking before the massage and combing with smart water which has lots of electrolytes. Tell her it’s just apart of the massage experience since it will also enhance her sensitivity all around specially combined with massage which strongly stimulates blood flow by removing tension. Lastly I’d recommend getting a vibrator wand. It’s the most bought sex toy for a reason and juju at let her figure out the rest as you enjoy each other.
Fuck first.
That’s been Dan Savage’s mantra for years. No one feels sexy after an indulgent dinner. Have the sex. Draw her a bath or shower together. Then go out for the evening.