I \[24m\] have used all of the dating apps for years, gotten advice on how to use them properly and set up my profile from multiple people, but have gotten very few matches. Those matches that did happen never panned out past a few sentences of conversation. I would prefer to meet people organically in the first place, but I have never had a lifestyle conducive to meeting people out in public. I enjoy bird-watching, identifying organisms on hikes or nature walks, going to natural history museums, and gardening. None of these activities have proven to be conducive to meeting potential singles that are around my age. What would you all recommend I try to do? Thank you in advance!
TL;DR: Dating apps are not working and I would like organic alternatives to meet people.
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Find circles and groups that enjoy doing these things.
Sign up.
Interact. Meet new people.
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Profit.
My experience is that you need a social hobby with other people. If you are part of a group and your group interacts with other people, you tend to get introduced to new people doing sth similar. For example, I am a member of sports team. Often we meet other athletes at the gym and as they know my other team members, we get introduced often, chat. This creates many opportunities to meet similar people. This hobby is also an easy topic to share and talk about that connects us to new people.
I lift heavy :D. But my friend also engage in dancing, board games, hiking, disc-golf, all sorts of activities. Choir singing etc
There’s a lot for you to learn from reading your post. I can recommend some YouTubers to watch, and I will say the more videos you watch, the more you will know what to do in XYZ situation 1—anthonyspade reactions 2. Manosphere highlights daily 3. Black Filipino TV 4. Legion of men 5. living a life of abundance. 6. darius m 7. Fbe capital 8. Modern life dating 9. ReplicantPhish 10. Taylor the fiend 11. mtr (mediocre tutorials and reviews)
12. austin holleman 14. The celebrity junk 15. Oshay duke Jacksn 16. MJ get right 17. man reacts 18. better bachelor 19. tim cast 20. coach greg adams
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The funniest YouTuber here is living a life of abundance, so have your popcorn ready. If you want to go deep, check out MJ Get Right and Anthonyspade reaction videos from 1-2 years ago, and everyone else brings a unique flavor to teaching you about the dating scene with women. MJ has three videos with the word validate, after watching that i got laid on the same day. The only problem is, learning this stuff at 27yr instead of 18yr where i wish i knew it to have dated a lot more in my teens and early 20s. ;/ maybe you dont have an issue getting laid then salute to you brother.
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In 6 months or less, your brain will generate all the answers you are looking for once you have enough information from all the videos you watched of every possible dating situation you saw.
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If you drive, then try to play a few videos to listen to. You’ll learn a lot faster. Get a second phone like I did if you need to separate GPS from what you are playing. and remember you can start of by just watching videos with thumbnails and titles related to your x situation so you solve your issues faster instead of watching videos in any order.
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so once again, the more videos you watch the more you will know *what to do* and *how to act* in xyz situation. that does also include looking through some of the older videos from years ago. you may find gold in there. Another thing I almost forgot to mention. If you use an iPhone like me, then get a cheap Android phone from 2020 or newer and download “Revanced YouTube” (download the Revanced Manager first and install YouTube with that*). This will block ads from popping up. So you do not have to skip ads with your finger again; you can see how many dislikes a video has, and you get some premium features like “clip” to create your own clips from videos of parts that matter most to you. And #2, don’t forget to save videos to your playlists, like “dating” etc. You create your playlists to keep stuff organized.