Hi, I’m just looking to understand what seems like a painful or complicated situation that is sometimes used for political gotchas. I’m not dealing with any questions of paternity myself, so for me this is just about educating myself and hopefully becoming more thoughtful.
I would love to hear whatever you are comfortable talking about, like how you came to have one, whose idea it was, who paid (and how much it was), and the upshot- plus of course your thoughts and emotions on the situation.
Would you do anything different, looking back? Do you have any advice for men or women generally or in that situation?
Thanks for your time.
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Yes, in 2019.
I had some that I went to college and I had sex with in 2004 claim I may have been the father of her 16 year old daughter. She found me because I have a public facing professional online presence with a unique enough last name to find me.
I was compelled by an Indiana court, outside the the Statue of limitations to take a test. I agreed because I can afford and waived that.
The test was negative.
I did. When I was 22, a deputy knocked on my door and served me with a court order to establish paternity. The child was 5 months old, and I didn’t know the mother beyond a one-night, drunken hookup. I did not want the results to come back positive, but they did. After a 2 hour long cry, I contacted the mother and went over for my first visit. My son just turned 17 last month. I have full custody, and raising him (and his 3 little brothers) has been my life’s greatest joy.
Yes, I have had them, and I believe it should be mandatory for all men to get one.
From the moment of birth, you are held legally responsible by the gov’t for financing that child. In this day and age, it should be impossible for a man to be financially responsible for a child that isn’t his.
They should make it mandatory, and you should be able to put women in prison that lie about who the father is on fraud charges.
The birth control and condom companies should pay for it, just to prove birth control works.
There’s a story on Reddit somewhere where a dad wanted a paternity test because his daughter didn’t look like him. Mom agreed to the paternity test and was getting ready to divorce the dad for not trusting her.
They did the test and the results showed that the daughter wasn’t related to dad. Dad was naturally pissed off and mom was confused. She has never cheated before and this had to be a mistake.
On a whim, mom decided to do a paternity test too and it turns out mom wasn’t related to the daughter either. The hospital switched the babies.
Mandatory paternity testing. It needs to be done at birth.