Now I don’t have a problem with saying no, just how do I do it politely. Because sometimes they are a boss or colleague or friend of a friend that I don’t click with, and therefore I don’t want to spend my weekends with them yet don’t want to offend
People will ask to meet up for x reason.
I will say the typical, “sorry, I’m busy due to x reason”.
Then the person will go onto say that they are happy to wait for me, and we can do it after x reason.
I end up trying to make up a good believable X reason why I will still be busy for the next foreseeable months.
And sometimes, to my dismay, the person will go on to ask me why my new X reason takes up every single day of my calendar for the next few months, when it is only an hour meetup they asked for.
By the time they text this, I just say I’m tired and have no energy. Internally I wonder if this whole texting exchange was worth trying to escape a 1hr meetup and if there is a better way to say no.
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“No, thanks” then if they still insist decline them again.
Tbh I feel that considerateness / politeness should have gone both ways. After a few declines, they should have known that you’re not very comfortable with it and respected your choices instead of pushing further or even guilt tripping you.
It’s sad that the people who care about not offending others don’t receive the same level of understanding.
Im sorry. Some people are popular. Just say you don;t want to.