Hi. Not anything new. It’s been a fantasy of mine since my HS girlfriend. We have been faithful to eachother so it’s literally been years. Maybe 10 years ago I came clean that I have these thoughts about her. She tells me stories of the details of her sexual interactions prior to our relationship. They really turn me on so we have fun with it. You can only hear the same stories so many times however lol. I don’t know how I would take it if she actually slept with someone else. I mean I would want my piece of action with a new and exciting body also. She has big beautiful healthy boobs, gorgeous face, etc… and I’m a boob guy. That being said I miss small boobs also. The majority of porn that I watch is small boobs. It’s probably the change of pace that gets me. We both still look like we are in our 30s and in her case maybe even 20s. We are lucky. I recently started taking testosterone replacement so my sex drive is back to where it was as a damn teenager lol. She has always had an amazing sex drive. She cums 20x sometimes during sex. I fantasize about her cumming on another man’s D a lot of the time. I guess it could be the internal conflict that turns me on. Jealous but intrigued… maybe the doing something bad (cheating) turns me on. I’ve always liked a little bad girl. I’m a bit edgy myself. She knows everything and I’ve even joked about going to a sex club, or giving eachother a hall pass. She definitely doesn’t want to and I believe her. She is happy with my D lol. I like diversity and would love to mess around with some other cute girl. But I don’t think it will ever happen it seems. Also, do I really want her having sex with another good looking guy? I mean yes and no. So conflicting. Any thoughts? Or am I doomed to never realize my fantasies and always wonder? Do any other guys think about this? It seems as tho it certainly not in the norm. Most guys are like…. Are you crazy? Yea maybe 🤔
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Role playing. It’s a very different thing when you introduce someone else into your relationship vs fantasy. She has no interest in it, you sound like you have a great relationship and you are taking it for granted. We all have fantasies that we don’t get to come true. There’s nothing stoping both of you writing erotic fiction, but you need to give your head a shake. You have the golden ticket- a fabulous marriage of 22 years, a great sex life, a loving partner- are you willing to throw that away and be that sad lonely creepy guy due to a midlife crisis? Go see a sex therapist. Edging is amazing when done properly, some light bondage, there are loads of ways to bring excitement into the marriage, but this is a non starter. The bond you have built over 22 years is what is important to your wife, as it should be, but it doesn’t seem that important to you.
In the vast majority of cases like this, fantasies are best off remaining fantasies. If you ever want to go there, it must be seriously consensual and very clear with the rules. When one spouse is coerced or nagged into action, even if they follow through, it usually ends up bad. You have a life together. How do you want to live your next 30 years of marriage? This is risky.